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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months, and love eachother very much. We go to different colleges, and she has a lot of guy friends that she hangs out with on the weekends. She always tells me that they respect our relationship and would never come on to her. Last week, she calls me crying saying that she made a mistake. Basically she was drunk and made out with one of her guy friends at a party, who was also drunk.She said she thought it was me and begged for my forgiveness and swore it would never happen again. I told her I didn't want her seeing him anymore, but she refuses because that's the only group of friends she hangs out with. I love her so much, but I don't know if I could handle her hanging out with them anymore. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): You were suspicious and uneasy to begin with and she went ahead and confirmed your suspicions. There's obvious attraction from one or both parties and the fact she won't do anything to reassure you means the relationship is probably gone. You are powerless from your end, and you don't want to be wondering what she's up to every time she goes out with her "friends". You cant make her not hang out with them so if you continue this relationship you're going to have to suck it up and trust her, there's no other choice is there?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 You could try trusting her for this to work. She sounds like she is sorry. I would be questioning the amount she is drinking because if she drinks that amount again, what would the next guy that comes along be like, would she think it's you again. In being like this she is putting herself at so much risk. I think to be able to go any further the drinking issue must be tackled. You arent with her when she is drinking so how is she keeping safe.
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