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writes:So i have a question:I started this sales role at a company not to long ago and I developed an instant crush on my boss. Many people would not think I wooud fall for my boss because of my look. Not to sound obnoxious but a lot of people describe me model like and a pretty face; and the type of guys I like are skinny tall and nerdy(which he was). I try to look like a barbie because I am insecure on the inside and looking great on the outside sadly helps a bit even though after a masters degree and a good job I never feel good enough(I had a verbally abusive relationship before). Anyways to make the story short, we ended up sitting next to each other at work side by side since it was an open floor enviroment.So in the three months I worked there I felt attracted to him, and I want your opinions of if these are signs that he liked or maybe might have been interested?1. He would notice my every movement(like when you look at someone on the corner of your eye). He would for example as every to seconds are you okay are you okay, when I would yawn, or laugh or sniff or cough2. He would always look at my computer screen seeing what I am doing, like for example when I was typing an email i intentionally left the heading out to see if he was looking at what i was doing, and he was like "oh why are you leaving the heading out"3. When he looked at me he would look at me directly in the eye, and when he shook my hand for the first time he should had firmly and hard4. When we were alone he would always be quiet or stay away from me"nervous like"5. I always mentioned that i LIKE GEEKY NICE GUYS AND HE WOULD BE LIKE "IM A NICE GUY"Anyways he was always super nice and professional and so was I but I was let go of the position because some of the girls I worked with were jealous. I used to dress up every day and do my best at work I never revealed my feeling but some of the girls got jealous thinking"oh who is she getting all dolled up all the time" when in reality I just wanted him to notice me. Anyways I know it was not him that fired me deep down because when he told me I had to be let got he seemed shaken and red like something had just hit him; I know deep down inside me the girl that said snext to me that was always trying to get me in trouble must have said something. But in anger I wrote him an email saying I was "disappointed that I didnt get a real reason" y I was let go. He simply said I was "not a fit" and he seemed upset to say it. My question is, its been three months and I wonder sometimes if I will ever hear from him? Do you guys think those were signs of attraction? Even though a lot of people say you are beautiful and sexy you get stuck on such a guy, i still think about it..I mean he didnt respond to my email because in a way it had to do with his job, but do you guys think I should contact him? I saw his facebook and saw a pic with a girl he was talking to while I was working, but he always mentioned he had his "walls up" What do you guys think.. Im so confused after this experience, and I really liked him, he seemed to notice the small details in me..
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): Your story sounds so much like mine, but the signs of attraction were much stronger. I had asked many questions on here about the same thing. Most people have advised me to take the direct approach and ask him out. Become his friend first and see where that takes you.
Maybe tone down your dress a little and dress more business like and less barbie girlish. Some guys find this type of dress a little off a turn off.
Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 If am honest with you, it sounds to me like he was just showing interest in you as an employee. There is nothing there that cries out that he was showing signs off attraction. At the end of the day it is his decision who is let go so deep down you must realise that it was him that sacked you, not this other girl. Even if she did complain to him about you, it is not a good enough reason to sack you, so there must have been another reason. I think you should just try and move on and forget about him.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (20 November 2011):
Im dealing with the same thing myself (met a gorgeous girl but cant read her signs) so ive decided jus to walk up to her the next time I see her. Dont read too much into signs as every person is different and some people don't know they are even giving off "signs". Number five would make me think he was trying to give me a subtle hint though. My advice, get in comtact with him and let it be known that you find him attractive. What's the worst that can happen? And if nothing happens between you two, then you never even have to see him again. Take that chance. "You miss 100 per cent of the shots you don't take". Cliche I know lol. but so true. Good luck
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