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writes:Is a woman's cycle really a reason to forgive her sudden bitchiness?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 No.
Only 2- 3 % of women experience OCCASIONALLY symptoms of psychological discomfort ( irritability, anxiety, sadness etc. ) so severe to actually impair their functioning in a social setting. The others, either don't act up at all, or if they do they are : a ) seizing the chance for a little bitch-fest they could not normally get away with b ) reacting same as they generally react to certain triggers in their everyday life, only PMS gets blamed, not their attitude.
Besides, it's called pre-menstrual syndrome not by chance, the hormonal peaks and fluctuations which supposedly cause
mood swings happen BEFORE the period starts, once it has started you may- not must - have some physical complaints, but unless one is the type of person who turns into a saber-tooth tiger at the slightest sign of headache, those are not enough to make you spin out of control.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 May 2011):
I think not. I'm a women, I have my periods and I'm perfectly capable of reigning myself in when I notice I'm getting antsy and sensitive. Sure, it's a known fact many women feel different during their periods, but that's not an excuse for them to just let that rule their behavior.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): It may not be sufficient reason. But you will have to learn to deal with it or...
There is no or.
You will have to learn to deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2011): For me, it's more physical than emotional. If I'm ever rude because of my period, it's because I'm having cramps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011): haha son you've got a lot to learn.I've been happily married for many years and attribute much of that happiness to the convenient scheduling of business trips. On that dreaded week I prefer to be far far away (preferably on a different continent) offering my sympathies and encouragement from a safe distance. I had to learn the hard way (still have a scar to prove it) to never antagonize a woman when she's on her period, sure she may seem sweet and cuddly like her normal self but trust me... most women are perfectly capable of tearing your head off if you rub them the wrong way during those sensitive days.Those men on here that are a little older will know that a 'sudden bitchiness' is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to female hormones. You just wait until you're older and you have to go through the joys of pregnancy and menopause.Forgive you're girlfriend and man up (and by man up I mean start coming up with believable cover stories as to why you can't see her on those days). I'm a big guy, formerly in the army/police but trust me, there are some forces you just do not want to mess with. I pity the fool that crosses my wife on her 'off' days....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 May 2011):
 It can beand it should be if you ever want to have a relationship last longer than a month or two with a woman.SOMETIMES PMS or PMDD (more severe than PMS but often just said to be very bad PMS) can really affect how a woman feels or behaves.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Premenstrual_dysphoric_disorder
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 May 2011):
Yes.
My girlfriend, like all women, can turn from a strong,loving, happy women into a quivering emotional wreck within a day of her period starting. And, well, that usually means that at some point I'll have to listen to a lot of crying, anger, annoyance and such. As her loyal and loving boyfriend, I'll stand there and take it, at which point I'll usually get "I'm sorry - I'm really sorry" and everything will be all right again. Frequently, our most meaningful and loving conversations take place during this time, since she feels so much emotion that she has to let it all out.
Point is, your girlfriend being edgy and rude when she's having her period isn't a bad thing. It's something that happens to all women, and every man has to stand there and take it. But that's just what a good, understanding man will do. Trust me, if you can be there for your girlfriend when she's feeling that crap and at her worst, then she'll appreciate it. Most women feel pretty embarrassed and sorry for themselves once they know they've been mad - the least you can do is just say "it's all right". And also, it shows you care which is always a winner.
It's when a woman has no reason to get bitchy or treat you like dirt that you know you're really in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): It would be nice to be understanding, even though you don't know what she is going through, and try respect her feeling unlike herself. Maybe keep more of a distance if that reduces the possibility of getting your head off?I don't think period completely gives you free for all though to unleash the monster inside and try kill people though... there has to be compromise. She needs to learn when to just take time out and go spend an arvo alone or something and get away from people if she feels horrible and unfriendly. But yes sometimes it's such a rubbish feeling we don't want to be nice. sorry bud some girls are just like that
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reader, Jerseygirl +, writes (2 May 2011):
Not all girls get bitchy when they have their period and its stupid that girls use that as an excuse. She needs to suck it up and get over it cause all girls go through this. We all know how much it sucks but just deal with it
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Well put Odds.
Have to agree with all the writers; there isn't any easy answer. Be extremely thankful for your Y chromosome and exercise a bit of patience. With a bit of practice you will know when she is just moody from her cycle or milking it and taking advantage. Speaking from the opposite end of life - it was a bitch going THROUGH those hormone surges. And WE PUT UP WITH IT it to bear Our Future children - so consider how much easier your job is! lol!
Be a kind, sweet and considerate boyfriend and bear with her when she feels yucky!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 I live with four other girls, I am the only guy in my household so I can tell you from two decades of experience of this that personalities may change. My mom who is mostly a reasonable and harmless woman will suddenly change to this irrational and irritable person when she's on her period. My sister whose irritable even on a regular day is a monster when she's on her period! You just have to learn to deal with it because depending on the person, its not always that bad. You have to accept that its only natural, a change in chemical balance will lead someone to irrational decisions, there's a spike in hormone levels so you can't expect her to be able to control it all the time no matter how hard she may try. Yes I think you should forgive her because I'm pretty sure she doesn't actually mean the things she says.I hope that helps.
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reader, Odds +, writes (2 May 2011):
 A woman is allowed to demand forgiveness for her PMS attitude if she forgives her man for being a horndog caveman when he has an erection.
Or, in all seriousness (since tone doesn't carry well over text), people have self-control and ought to be expected to exercise it. Anything less is just an excuse to be lazy and inconsiderate.
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reader, Quirkay +, writes (2 May 2011):
Er, yes! I was a sufferer of PMS and could be charming one moment, a monster the next - then realise what I had said and why and be so apologetic! It's awful - you can't help yourself sometimes. I always found Vitamitim B6 helped but quite often, when faced with heavy, painful periods, forgot to take it.
You are quite young and therefore I am guessing you are talking about someone around the same age - you need to also factor in, therefore, that there are teenage hormones raging around too - we've all been there - ever heard the term "crazy, mixed up kids"? It sums it up! THEN add the PMS - I think a little understanding wouldn't go amiss!
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reader, melissa. spoiled! +, writes (2 May 2011):
 She just snapped at me and then said she was sorry but I don't feel like I should forgive her.
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Only to some extent. It has to get better. If it keep getting worst, to the point that it happens anytime (even in the middle of the month) then it's probably something else.
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reader, Eilish +, writes (2 May 2011):
 During a hormonal stage females can get moody, mardy, and aggressive easily. It's just the way their body is, and I'm not just saying it because I'm a female. Sometimes I shout at my boyfriend not meaning to whilst I'm on my period. It's just someone to shift my bad mood upon really. Selfish I know, but I honestly can say that hormones do influence my behaviour hugely. Girls feel all sorts of emotion; they can cry over nothing, be angry over nothing, and be very confused. I've been there and been to all of them. Just remember you males get it easy when it comes to your body...
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (2 May 2011):
 i think you can forgive her within good reason if shes been moody (not bitchy because if you said that to her you deserve a bit of anger)but then later apologises and says shes been a bit emotional then yes forgive her because shes said sorry.
sometimes i get so emotional when it that time that i can when i get frustrated or angry, its really a girl thing but just think could you really hold your composure if your body was leeking, you had horrible stomach cramps, you were feeling irritated for no reason, and you have boob and back ache, do you really think you could not be a little bit moody with all of that weight on you?
i think you should try and consider it from her side.
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reader, Plexi +, writes (2 May 2011):
 During a woman's period, her hormones are out of control and can indeed influence her mood in a big way. The older she gets, the more she should be able to control herself but when very young it can be very overwhelming and uncontrollable. I would advise you to understand first what she is going through and when she has a fit during " that time" just walk away and talk about it later with her when she has calmed down and is a bit more rational.
Good Luck hun
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 No. There is never any reason to forgive bitchyness.
She must learn to control herself or get on medication. Some women DO suffer from PMS, to the degree where they need medication, but the solution could be as easy as taking hormones like birth control pills.
Words hurt. Bitchyness hurt. Her not really meaning it, or having some excuse, doesn't make it hurt less! So no, it is not excusable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2011): YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Without a doubt.
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reader, PotF Fan +, writes (2 May 2011):
 Thats not fair at all
you have no experience with what women go through during their period
so you have no right to question if their personality temporary changes
from what ive been told its not exactly nice...so to convey it (im sorry if it offends anyone but im trying just to make a link) imagine being kicked in the nuts once a month. Can you say tht even after the hundredth time you would be similing?
i know its far from a perfect metaphor but i cant think of a better suited male equivalent...cos there isnt one
in other words...forgiveness shouldnt even be an issue
actually it shouldnt be forgiveness as they have done nothing wrong...the least you can do is try and understand what its like and respect the fact that it isnt an easy thing to endure to say the least
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (1 May 2011):
 Take birth control for a week and see for yourself what a sudden surge of hormones does for your personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): Is being in a bad mood a reason to forgive a guy for his sudden bitchiness?
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