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writes:Hey, this is my second question about my current relationship with my boyfriend, zack..This month will be two years with my boyfriend... We have been going through some MAJOR up and downs, and plenty break-ups mostly to do with trust issues. I finally found that I had no reason not to trust him, so finally I had come to the point where breaking up would not help us in the long-run, so we've both decided to make it work... only... About a month ago, I saw in his phone that HE called this girl named Tara. I asked about this girl and he said that his friend needed his phone to call her. He immediately said that he deleted her number.. So I forgot about her. I had remembered that this girl Tara had a crazy obsession crush on my boyfriend in Highschool (she's 17 and he's 20 and im also 20).As of right now, he is currently in Domincan for a vacation with his guy friends and they're coming back on friday (and its been 3 days and I haven't received a text or a call from him).This is where the juice comes in... Yesterday, my good friend had the courtesy of sharing some news with me. My friend is close with Tara's sister. My friend visited Tara's sister at home (last wednesday, two days before Zack left for Dominican), and also saw Tara because she was also home. Tara goes up to her and says "Omg, Guess whatt?! I'm dealing with Zack! We've chilled a couple times". So, shocked my good friend is (because she knows that I'M DATING ZACK), she asks more questions. She asks how many times they've chilled, if they've ever done anything, etc.Tara goes on to say, they've been talking and hanging out since NOVEMBER OF LAST YEAR, that she's been TO HIS HOUSE, that they have gone "let's just say beyond fucking" (in Tara's words..which I don't understand).. BUT Tara has been sad because zack calls her only sometimes, and he hasn't contacted her for two weeks. OH, and Tara also said to my friend that Zack told her that he has been wanting to get with her since highschool.... (Tara didn't believe it!)SOOO Basically, the times that we have broken up, it's like zack has gone back to this tara chick as a side girl... and hasn't told me ONCE about her, and also denied calling her that one time I suspected something! Before he went to Dominican, we were really good.. and he had the nerve to say that he loved me soo much and i was the most beautiful girl in the world... like I haven't heard that before.Everytime we have gotten into an argument about trust, he just says that I'm the one with a guilty concious and that the only reason why I'm asking these questions is because I'm the one who is cheating.So... my girlfriends have told me to dump him. I think I should... but I want to hear other opinions. Don't get me wrong, I am FURIOUS, and I'm glad he's in Dominican right now so that I have time to breathe and make a rational decision. Let me give you some insight.. The times we have broken up, I've been to clubs and danced with other guys and he was really hurt by it. But, I have told him about EVERY SINGLE guy friend I have. Also, I have broken up with him on many occasions because of trust or out of impulse..and I feel like zack goes back to her because he feels like he can depend on her because SHE'S OBSESSED with him.I have been the most loyal person to him because I love him and I know he loves me and I have never kept a secret from him. I don't understand why he would keep this girl on the side (by the way, I know what Tara looks like... not what i expected.. black, big boobs and an ugly face..i'm not gunna lie) So I personally don't even know what's going on here..PLEASE help me..... I would be tremendously appreciative if you guys could help me out... xoxo
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reader, iloveyou123 +, writes (11 May 2009):
iloveyou123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol ok, he called from Dominican right now, drunk..saying that he loves me, misses me and wishes that i was there with him. i pretended like nothing happened....
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