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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years. We have been happily in love since we first met, of course with the usual ups and downs of a normal relationship. Recently one of her aunts found out she was dating me from rumors going around and is starting to tell people not to let their children hang out with us because we will turn them gay. It hasn't really bugged me because i'm a college girl but my girlfriend is still in high school under her dad's supervision. She broke up with me last night because she's scared that if we stay together I will get a lot of the heat that is about to come up. She said that if asked by her family if she's gay she would say yes, but if they ask if She is dating me she wants to be able to truthfully say she isn't. She doesn't want me to lose my jobs because we live in a very conservative area that is not gay friendly. She said that she wants to wait untill she graduates to get back together. She's a junior! I'm so broken I don't care if I lose my jobs I just want to be with her and help her through this but she's not letting me. She says that she will love me always and we will get back together after she graduates but i don't know if I can wait a year and a half. Should I keep trying to convince her to let us be together or should I drop it and wait like she wants?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input. I guess it's just gonna be really hard but you're right I need to let her go.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 March 2013):
 you can't force her to be with you.
Part of the problem is you are in different life places. You are over 18 and in college and legally an adult.
she is still under 18 and in high school and living at home and still under her parent's thumb.
Also you have been together a long time for a young partner and I do not think that waiting for her or trying to get her to get back together are viable options.
I think you need to let the relationship go for now. I think you should live your life and let her live hers... if you meet someone else you tell her, and she would have to do the same.
If in a year and a half when she's out of school and her family home, you two get back together that's great.
but for now, you need to let it go as is her wish. Respect her request.
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