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writes:Hi, ok so 6 weeks ago i went to see my girlfriend and were havin a cuddle and a little talk and i say to her " your my best friend" and she sortof says like thats sweet, and then she says that im her best friend but she says it in that way that you no theres a underlying problem or something goin on. if you know what i mean?. i notice this and ask her if thats all she wants and she says she dont know, anyway we talk things through and decide that were gonna take it easy for about a week so she can get her thoughts and feelings straight. anyway a week later i go see her and she tells me that she does just want to be friends with me now. so i ask the usual questions like, have i done anything, is there someone else, do u still love me etc... she says that i havent done anything and that she loves me very much and that no theres not anyone else, she just wants to be single for a while, which if im honest is fair enough im not mad at her for dumping me im just heartbroken and if i cant be her boyfriend then ill take what i can get because i need her in my life, i dont go a single minute without her in my head. im still in love with her now and its been 6 weeks since we split up. so at first things were alrite, i mean we still saw each other as friends and spoke on the phone and text each other and spoke on msn, but this past week shes not answered my text or spoke to me wen ive spoke to her on msn, shes been really distant from me. basically i was wondering if any of you guys could maybe give me some advice on whaat they think is going on? we were together for nearly 2 years.thankswez
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reader, wez +, writes (30 August 2008):
wez is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice. we did argue sometimes but it would be like once every 2-3 months, as far as i thought we were ok, shes the kind of person that if somethings bothering her or sees got something on her mind she tells me about it. the thoughts of getting with someone else have never entered my head, im not ready for that yet, i suppose im still holding on to the hope that one day shes gonna want me back. i still love her, and im still in love with her. she still means the world to me.thankswez
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reader, calcol +, writes (30 August 2008):
yeah, id have to agree with the other answer. You need to back off her. I made the mistake of texting a lass constantly and now we hate each other. if we'd have not spoken for a while things would have been fine.Hope this helps you
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reader, squiggle +, writes (30 August 2008):
You sound like a very sweet person and I'm sure most girls would love to have you as a boyfriend. Did you two ever argue? Sometimes even little things can fester and cause cracks in a relationship. Maybe there's something she didn't want to talk about or maybe she just wanted to spread her wings. I'm not quite sure what advice to give you other than stay strong and if you still love her don't try jumping into another relationship to compensate for her loss - just take it easy and start doing things you enjoy more often and find yourself. Concentrate on - you! Get out and about and when you feel like you can move on move on cause trust me you will eventually. If she isn't even answering your texts or anything I'd give her some room for a while. It is possible shes met someone else but give it a week or two without calling her or texting her. Then ask her what's going on. Get closure.Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): damn, maybe since you're not together she's drifting away. just let her have some space for now and everything will happen how it's supposed to. good luck
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