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writes:i am a saved man, who is married to a womam who just can't seem to break a way from her lovers in the past. Before we married i told her that maybe God had someone else for her. She has persude me for 1 1/2 years telling me that i am the only man for her. Now we are 5 months into the marriage and i am finding her emails and text message to other men with sexual implications what should i do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for writting Eddie, yes he is a local guy. And their's no doubt in my mind, they would have gotten together. Religion is a very important part of my life. that why i told her that maybe God had someone els for her. you see, being save means that you have set your life aside for God's use. Now that doesn't mean you wont make mistakes. The lifestyle that I am now living is what attracted her to me and it literally save my life. the woman that i fell in love was not the author of those letters. the woman who is growing in Christ is the one i will patiently wait for. I want to THANK YOU guys again for making me look back on my infidelity. and now I am able to show her compassion, while keeping my focus on everything that i love.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 You could tell her that she ALREADY did something that could end the marriage. That was behaving as she has done. Unfortunately, this falls back on you at this point.
You have to decide what the possibilities of this meeting actually were. Was this guy local? I ask this because if he was far away, they wouldn't have met. If so, it was nothing more than some dirty fun. I'm not justifying it, just explaining.
Take a look at your relationship. How much is religion a part of your life? It sounds as if your wife is not saved, as you put it. IS this a big issue in your marriage? I'm trying to get a picture of what might have lead her to carry on like this. Is she bored? IS she usually like this? Are you so straight laced and church minded that you can only see things from your point of view? Are you limiting your sexual practices to what the bible says is "normal"? Does religion stifle your marriage in some way?
eddie
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe messages say things like, Big dick have way in and i want to lick you. her respond was i want you to!!!! how you like me now. to lest make a date to meet,and I really miss you, her responses. luckly before they meet, she left her e-mail open and i was able to respond to the both him and her. I just simple stated that if you guys knew that you wanted each other, why did you bring me into this mess. why not just hook up for the rest of your lifes. he just backed out,he is a married man also. I've ask her to leave my home but she won't. she saids that she really loves me, and she wasn't going to do any thing that would end our marriage. what should I do???
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reader, duce00 +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Well put Eddie,
As for Anon Male: An honest conversation is the way to deal with this. Regardless of how you practice your belief in God the need to communicate with your spouse is still the same. Tell her your concerns and ask her whats going on. If it becomes strained avoid throwing the bible at her, that wont get you anywhere. This is a question of honesty and faithfulness not religion.
Best of luck,
Duce
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reader, eddie +, writes (31 August 2007):
What do the messages say? The reason I ask is because if you're looking at the messages from the view of a "saved" man, your interpretation might be off. Or, they might in fact be sexual messages. Sometimes saved people walk a pretty narrow and intolerant line through life. Perhaps you don't but many are very judgmental. As I said though, you may be 100 % correct.
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