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writes:I guese ill start by saying iv never had any thing like this happen to me and i don't have a clue what to do! Well iv been dating this very sweethearted girl for about 4 months, were great togeather, shes my bestfriend, feels like the one but im not sure now, all i know is we love each other very much, it took me a while to say what i felt because she has had a few really bad emotionally devastating realtionships and i didnt want to scare her away or rush anything. Well so i think everything is fine, just peachy , trusted eachother complately , iv never smothered her or been to needy, gave her space when she needs it, but both of us live in a small town where the people are very nosey and people talk and run their mouths. Its just an awful place to live nither of us can stand to live here any longer disptie the fact she has children here but because of her ex she got screwed out of custody.( trust me on this she did nothing and this ex of used money and influence to do this just to be in total controll because he is a control freak) this pains her very deeply but i know she can get her rights back with a decent lawyer but nither of us are in the fininacal situation to do so atm but will be soon 1-2 months tops and i want this for her more than anything to fill that hole inside her. Well she got the opertunitiy to get a free trip to las Vegas by a friend of hers from high school, he had dated her in the past, said there was nothing too worry about they were just friends, iv always been secure in my self, i dont get jealous of other guys easily , nor do i have a problem finding women who find me attractive , same way on her end but never in my 30 years of life have i connected with someone so deeply and been able to trust somone with my life , well after a week of partying on his dime , he props the question on her and she accepted, i have no idea and end up finding out via facebook this happens while im stuck in this god awful town, anyways i pick her up fr the air port and spend the day with her, talking about why she did what she did, it sounds like she found a way out of this town because i asked her if she loved this man, her reply was she didnt know and she did it so she could get her custody rights to children back because from what i gather hes stable financially, i am also just not atm, but very smart (160+iq) and capable of just about anything , 2 years prior to moving to this god awfull hell hole town, i owned my own buisness and managed a multi million dollar automotive inventory , made a great living doing this. I took my shot at going for the american dream and lost, thus ending up here in this hell hole of place to live. What do I do?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 June 2012):
 Oldbag is right, it all sounds very fishy, and four months seems a bit quick to decide you have found 'the one' ....you may have dodged a bullet here; As for the hell hole you are living in, sure there are some crap places in this world, but if we all developed that community spirit the hell holes wouldn't be hell holes for much longer.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (28 June 2012):
 Hi
Sorry your in this situation. To be honest I think you've had a very lucky escape.Sweet girls in a loving relationship don't go off to Vegas for a break,with a male friend and come back to tell you its over.Something fishy here.
Would you have gone with an ex girlfriend?
As for the children, I don't know about there but in UK its rare a father gets custody without good reason. But I dont know the facts,nor do you, only what she has told you.
If she has a history of bad relationships,even though shes been married, you have to ask why that is
I hope you too can get away from the town your living in and move on and up,you sound a decent man. Tomorrow is another day
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