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My older friend targets younger girls. Should I talk to him about it?

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Question - (28 June 2012) 7 Answers - (Newest, 29 June 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello all, I know this opinion may be controversial, but here it goes.

My friend just graduated from high school. He's a really cool guy and all but he always goes after girls who are 13 or 14. This is weird to me. I don't mind age differences, it's the age that these girls are though. Barely in high school, vulnerable, and willing to say anything because he's older and therefore a god to them.

Am I right to think this? Should I bring this up to him?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2012):

I am in my mid-30s and I date women a decade younger than me all the time now. But when I was 18yo I didn't wanna mess with 15yo girls, let alone 13. That developmental gap is gigantic.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (28 June 2012):

Anonymous 123 agony auntI dont think this a "friend" you would mind losing, would you? This is a dangerous, twisted guy and what he's doing is WRONG. Its sick to go after girls that young and he's doing it because its easier to score with younger, innocent girls who cant see through his charming veneer. What makes you think he's "cool"? Maybe he looks nice and is a glib talker but in no way is he cool. Talk to him if you like but keep in mind that it wont make any difference to him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012):

How is he a really cool guy if he preys on young vulnerable teens?

I'd bring it up to him as the reason why you no longer want a friendship with him, simple as that. Or do you really want to be friends with total creeps?

You need to choose your friends better OP, the guy is a sex offender if he does anything more than kiss these girls, do you really think all he does is have a kiss?

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (28 June 2012):

Fatherly Advice agony auntHe is not "cool". He is a week, manipulative, #@%$! I used to be that age. You should hear how these guys who date younger girls talk about them. They prefer young girls because they are "trainable". They deliberately use them. And they do keep "score".

Yes he will get into trouble. No he will not change his ways, he doesn't know how. And, warning his targets will fall on deaf ears.

FA

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 June 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHe will go after the wrong girl and her parents will press charges and he will go to jail and be branded a sex offender for life.

That means, no real jobs, no neighbors wanting him in the neighborhood... having to report in to the authorities every move he makes

yeah by all means tell him how dangerous and wrong a game he is playing...

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (28 June 2012):

eyeswideopen agony auntOh it will be brought up to him sooner or later either by an irate parent or the cops. You might however tell your friend that the general population in most prisons look at pedophiles in a most unpleasant light.

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A female reader, Anastasia Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (28 June 2012):

Anastasia agony auntHi,

Well you can have a chat with him about his preferences....but I think chatting with him about the repercussions of statutory rape would be better.

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