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writes:I am sort of new top this online dating thing. I met this girl online and we hit it off real well. We started chatting via I'm and some of our chats got explicit. She sent me some photos of her bare legs (waist down) in the past. Last night, she was talking about how horny she was and how she wanted me to tell her what I wanted to do to her. After a couple of messages back and forth with me mostly being amazed at my luck, I told her I wanted her. She said she wanted me, too. She was really explicit.We have seen photos of each other, but we have never met. She lives about 40 minutes away. We came close a few times, but it hasn't worked out so far. Anyway, when she really started to get explicit with me it turned me on. I have never done anything like this before, but I snapped a quick photo of my erection and sent it to her. Her comments were positive, but she quit chatting not too long after.Today I chatted with her again. I apologized to her. She said it was okay because I was obviously drunk. I had a little to drink, but I was way more horny than drunk. I told her as much. She wanted to change the subject. We talked some more like usual, but there seemed to be this elephant in the room she wanted to ignore.Did I mess things up by my actions? Before that all she was doing was telling me how much she wanted to feel me inside of her. Now she is acting shy? Was I too forward? I think it's good she still wants to talk to me, but I am not sure if I should let the subject rest. What do I do if she starts to get sexual with me again? I get the feeling she's one of those girls who likes to play innocent, but that maybe she really liked the photo. How do I know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): Are you sure you were chatting with a woman? Anyone can hide behind a computer and send you pics they've copied or collected elsewhere from the Internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): A dick photo might not have been the best way to continue flirtation but I don't think it was out of bounds for the situation at all. Not with what she was saying to you and the fact that she's send body part pics of her own already. If she suddenly clams up and pretends it was too far then she's just being a cocktease.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 Sorry hun but this woman is just wanting to chat dirty with you - she will never meet with you and you shocked her by sending her a dick-pic - it probably made it real to her that you wanted her for sex.
It is one thing to chat over the internet but another thing when things start getting real....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 September 2011):
 Well, take it as a lesson. Sending "cock-shots" is not a way to wow a girl. Somethings are just better kept within a "fanatasy" (even a shared one) or in person. IMHO
I think she might have felt it was pushing it too hard. She might WANT to flirt/talk sexy, but she also wants to feel like you want to get to know her for her, not just for the potential sex.
You have apologized so let it go.
PS. are you sure she is single?
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reader, butterfliesarefree  +, writes (20 September 2011):
She may be more embarrassed because of the messages she was sending you. Don't mention it again unless she does and just act as you normally would don't force the subject or she might start thinking that's all you want from her
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