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writes:My question is quite simple - why do i always let girls make me feel bad? what i mean is i fall for a girl really easily and then i get so disappointed when it doesnt work out.Its happened so many times now. The most recent - id started seeing a girl and we'd spent a few night together and it was really nice, or so i thought. The other night i saw her with another guy and obviously 'with' him [i wont go into detail] thats not what i want to get advice on . its this feeling in my stomach, like ive been kicked, even today- 2 days on. Im not eating. i dont want to see anyone. i just feel like crying. but i'd only been seeing her for about a month! i cant handle it anymore. it doesnt get any easier. i have plenty of hobbies and friends and so on. i dont have a problem meeting girls but im not the sort of guy to sleep with anyone.why do i always feel so bad? how can i stop myself from getting like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 October 2012):
 The first poster kept it short and simple and they were right. It's perfectly normal and healthy to be disappointed when it doesn't work out with someone you like. But, it's not healthy to take it out on yourself and your own self-esteem. Learning to be happy with yourself is something that will be very valuable in the longrun. And trust me, the happier you are with yourself, the happier others are to be with you. And if it doesn't work out, it will still disappoint you, but you won't feel bad about yourself. You will feel bad that it didn't work it.
It's a lot easier said than done. And hey, feeling bad and wanting to cry - that's healthy! And the feeling will pass if you distract yourself enough and allow some time. But, what's not healthy is you taking it out on yourself. Take some time, delve into your hobbies and be happy with yourself! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): learn to be happy by yourself
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