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Please help me - did I lose my virginity?

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Question - (6 July 2013) 5 Answers - (Newest, 7 July 2013)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Over the summer I had a boyfriend we will always be together well anyways , one day we were at his bedroom and we got sexual he sticked his penus in me and I had pain but my question is if he sticked it in once did he pop my cherry ? when we got up there was a wet spot on the bed but it didn't look red ? o.O

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (7 July 2013):

Wetness could have been his cum. You aren't a virgin by any definition.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2013):

If you are concerned about the hymen, only a GP or a gynecologist can tell you if it is still there or not. Not every girl bleeds after her cherry is popped, and not every girl loses it after doing it only once.

Virginity is another story. After someone has entered your temple of love (even once), so you can't call yourself a virgin anymore. (But if the hymen is still there, you may decide to tell people that you are still a virgin. That's a lie, but that's none of our business)

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 July 2013):

Honeypie agony auntYep, PENIS inside the vagina = no longer virgin.

I think it's a little scary that someone your age doesn't know this. I really hope you read Tisha1 post and check out the link.. It's about time you get informed.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (7 July 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntDo you think that there is a cherry-like structure inside the opening of your vagina that is popped like a balloon? Because that is what your question seems to suggest.

Most women had a hymen, which is a thin membrane that is located just within the opening to the vagina. In some women, it's very small and does not bleed when it is eroded. It will be eroded or 'torn' by intensive physical activity like riding a bicycle or a horse, gymnastic moves and other similar movement.

That hymen structure is colloquially known as the 'cherry.' Maybe this will clear up your question.

You are not a virgin. Your hymen is unlikely to be intact following penetration by a penis. Not all women bleed after their first sexual intercourse.

You don't sound much like you are 18-21, honestly. This sounds more like a younger teenager.

So, to answer your question, your hymen (aka cherry) most likely isn't there anymore.

You would have to see a gynecologist to make sure, and I would recommend you go see one ASAP. You sound like you need some assistance with your body and managing contraception and prevention of STIs (sexually transmitted infections).

Here is are helpful links to find a GYN and to learn some basics about your anatomy:

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/info-for-teens/sex-masturbation/what-virginity-33827.htm

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex-101.htm

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm

Talk to your doctor to get help in managing your sexual health. It starts now, as you are sexually active. Be smart, make good decisions for yourself and your health NOW. It may save you a lot of pain and heartbreak later on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2013):

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we didn't us a condom , i'm not on BC and this happen last summer but my question was if he popped my cherry or not ?

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