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writes:I'm 20 years old but feel like a child as my parents treat me like one yet treat my younger brother like a adult. My parents brought my brother a house for him and his gf to live in but have raised my rent to pay for the mortage and the expensive furniture. I now have a 9pm curfew which destoryed my social life leaving me with no friends. I recently lost hours at work so my income went to almost 1/3 of what it was. I'm trying so hard to get more hours or a new job but my parents blame me for not having many hours which kills my confindence when it comes to applying for new jobs. I've tried so hard to talk to them but they just insult me by calling me fat and disgusting. I have no family members to talk to without them turning against me too. I feel I can't talk to them at all and it bringing me down everyday
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): You're paying rent! Maybe if you were mooching off those crazy people and not handing them fists full of money they could ask you to come home sooner....HOWEVER, you are paying them, and probably paying for their mortgage. Get outta there! Ask that spoiled brother of yours for a few weeks on the couch, save some money, and get a nice little shack somewhere. Boy do I hate controlling parents, I've got hovering over my shoulder as we speak. guess I gotta take a nap now, it's almost 7:00pm! 8-Pgood luck, and I'm sorry you had to be born to your parents
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 October 2009):
 I would do whatever I could to save up and find a room or a flatmate and simple move out. Curfew at 20? Ridiculous.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 October 2009):
You're in the position my own mother was in. She was used and abused like this. Bottom line, she moved out and never spoke to them again. She says she's far happier without them. I'm going to be harsh here and say that your brother is the clear favourite. Focus on your work and perhaps see if there's anyway you can find another job further away. You need to get away from this house before they destroy you. Lots of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): oh dear i im really sorry to hear this and really upset as well to hear parents and family behaving like this, thats a little too far, but if you can try to save up some money as little as u can, it may take a while but it might be worth it. You can also go to the police, (unless as someone says above you have a signed agreement that requires you home at 9pm) it is illegal to impose on a tenant in such ways even if you are family,(well i sure hope it is in your country) safe, comfortable dwelling and the landlord should leave tenant to his privacy and peace, try not to see yourself as family but as tenant to landlord, you can try to find out more about rental illegalities, so try to get help from the police. Good luck be sure to update us.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (16 October 2009):
 Wow I am very sorry. sounds like your parents are playing favorites. About the curfew...
You are a legal adult, and yes they may say the old "If you live under our roof you will abide by these rules". But legally they cant stop you form coming and going as you please. If you are paying rent then that means you legally have a right to come oand go off the property as you see fit, unless they have drawn up an agreement in which you agreed to be home by 9 pm.
Crazy isnt it?
Yep, your parents are nuts.As long as you pay rent, they cant give you a curfew.
I suggest that regardless of your current situation you leave the home. It will get no better as time moves on. If there is a co-worker you can board with for the time being Id seek that out, being you say all the members of your family seemingly are turning against you. I sympathize totally with you. MY family are all assholes, I have little to do with them unless one of them dies, and then I basically just go to the funeral to get a free meal off em
And may I ask what kind of parent insults their own children with such insults???
Bad Parents thats who...get the hell away from em before you end up hating them for the rest of their lives.
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (16 October 2009):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question My brother just turn 18 a few weeks ago so he younger. I don't earn enough to even rent a room off anyone. If I had friends to live at I would of moved out ages ago
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (16 October 2009):
 Wow, sounds like you are in a bad situation. Is your brother younger or older then you?
Your family is not supportive of you at all because they insult you and bring you down. My advice is to get out of this situation asap. I know money is a problem but when you feel like you can move out into an apartment. You are an adult and you need to take control in your life.
Good Luck!
Maybe try moving in with a friend.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (16 October 2009):
 First off they cant give you a curfew...you twenty! You need to move out as soon as you can...it would make life much easier for you!
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