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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years now. We first got together when I was 14 and he was 15 and things were pretty good for the first year of our relationship. During my GCSE's our relationship struggled as I was so focused on passing them I didn't make much effort for the relationship. I still met him and everything but he ended up cheating on me. Ever since then we had argued about it and split up and got back together. Since he cheated there has always been a niggling in the back of my head that he might do it again and I'm quite insecure. I suffer with depression and sometimes have really bad days. Since the girl he has cheated on me with, he has never done anything with another girl however a few months ago he was meeting this girl behind my back. I put it straight that it was either me or her because I couldn't cope with that. (He has loads of male mates he sees and also around 10 girls that he speaks to or sees regularly, even if it is through work or whatever) He said he wanted me but then a week later he had her stop at his. I went mad and we had a huge fight where he told me he would have nothing to do with her. He blocked her on Facebook and everything and also deleted her number and texts. Since then we have been amazing. Going out for meals, to the cinema, we're planning a holiday and basically talking about the future in a serious sense. Well last night he was like I'm not seeing you on Friday because I'm going out with my mates drinking in town. My heart sank. I have no idea what is wrong with me but I am so paranoid about him going with them. I really want him to go out and have a good time with his mates but I can't help but worry that he might cheat. I don't want to go through that hurt again. It made me so ill last time and I love him so much. I spoke to him this morning and he asked if I was ok with it and I said of course I was, but I was worried that once he had a drink would he be tempted and he said 'of course I won't, I love you and want to be with you'. I don't know how to deal with what I'm feeling and its making me a paranoid wreck and know that this is going to make me ill in the long run.Please don't tell me to leave him because I love him so much and I know this relationship is what I want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): Once a cheater, always a cheater. Trust your instincts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): This is the original poster
I also wanted to add that a few of his mates have encouraged him to cheat and congratulated him when he has. (I've seen the texts) I like most of his friends but some of them just get around and I don't particularly like him hanging around with them although I hsve never stopped him or asked him to.
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