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writes:ok i really need help!frist off i know i might be over reacting abit but i really am stressing out ok here goes my fiance and i live together right a two bedroom one bath house im the only one who cleans as i dont work at the moment and hes job is really hard, hes an iron worker he works loads iron rods on trucks all day and stacks them im pregnant 6 weeks,i just went thru a miscarrige i was 4 months a long well heres the problem my fiance lived here before i met him right and had a roommate which is now gone because he was causing problems between me and him and was sexually coming on to me while my boy friend was at work,well we started getting into money troubles because i quit my job and was on bed rest due to the extra stress he was the only one working and everything, we go so far behind i went back to work then we still needed help and hes friend he knew from work needed help him and hes wife were having problems he had no where to go and was staying in hes car and with hes brother but was ruinning there marriage as they just got married ok and that didnt give my fiance a hint, i know he has a big heart but i can only take so much back to the story we left for a week on vacation right and we came back everything was ok from a while then he started doing the same thing the last did hitting on me what ever i blew it off, well he brought hes sister over shes 14 and she was drunk!then we told him she couldnt stay so he made her leave at that point i wanted him out of our house i then found out my fiance cheated on me with an ex girl friend, found a secret cell phone in hes car right he begged me saying he cared for her only because they had so much history together and she just lost her parents come to find out she lost her mom 5 years ago and her dad in dec. i lost my mom to cancer a day before mothers day that same day he wasnt home with me i was pregnant then and almost lost the baby right i called him he ran home but that day on hes was home he texted her saying i love you and i will see you tommorrow for sure i dont know if he showed up or not i really dont care any more i lost my baby 2 days after i found that phone i still kinda hate him deep down for that but i have to try and move past it well hes friend was still living with us and then he brought hes wife over and told my fiance she has no where to go and my finace said she could say as she was 8 months pregnant i had no problem with this as i knew he wouldnt come on to me anymore but it was worse than i thought they sated in there room all the time right that part wasnt bad they would fight loud and slam things against the walls i heard him hitting her so when my fiance got home i told him he talked to her and she told him ok you know next time ill tell him ima tell you right well my fiance talked to him he lied and said he doesnt hit her she lied for him too the next day it happend again well my fiance didnt believe me because they didnt do this when he wasnt home well hes brother was here and he was too and they got into it pretty good and outside he kicked her aganist the car police came she lied for him he even admitted to my fiance and my finace told him he doesnt go for that next time he will step in well to make it more short they started involving me in there fights i just found out i was pregnant again and didnt need the stress well she would tell me things and i was worried as she was pregnant you know!well i told my fiance and he wouldnt hear it i didnt want this to happen in our home well she started saying he was on drugs than i found a pipe and she gave me another one that was post to be hes right i started crying i dont want this around me or my fiance i told my fiance he said there gone well he came home called the roommate and made me comfront him and her both i did right it all turned on me he told him hes wife would have to leave and i was upset as we were caught up with bills well he left hes wife went walking and left her phone and car keys i put them out side as her husband was going to anyways i was going to hand them to her but i didnt want anymore trouble my fiance drove the roommate to the gas station where hes car ran out of gas well she came back saying were is her phone i said i dont know she talked to me and my fiance for the frist time it all came out she told him everything she told me he said he would ask him to leave too well he helped her to the car told her if she had no where to go she could stay at our place for one more night but would have to leave before he went to work at 5am well he was running late for work so he couldnt warn me they were both here well they started yelling and woke me up i didnt want to get ganged up on so i did what i normally do clean get dinner ready everything like that wash clothes well i was cleaning the bedroom hanging clothes and making the bed i came back out into the kitchen they were both there eating our food and started ganging up on me saying things and he got in my face yelling i backed up and went to my room called my fiance crying i was scared to be alone in my own home thats aweful they left he came home and hugged me said he would never put me in that situation ever again he jumped him mad and almost hurt him for what he did to me and told him to stay the hell away from me now she had her baby and today he came to my fiance and said they have no where to go i cant take this she will be here all day and night with a baby my fiance works from 5am to 3pm or 5pm some days and her husband works from 2:30pm to 11:30 some times 2am ill be here with him and her almost all day my fiance and her husband work at the same place just differnt shifts i wont stay if he brings them back!am i over reacting ? ive put up with so much alot of other women would have left!am i wrong ?
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reader, slh318erw +, writes (12 August 2008):
 I say you leave or they leave, you could have an emotional break down from all the stress. In the future dont live with other people I wont not even family... I found out my sister came on to my fiance when he was wasted. roommates suck....
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 no hun ur not wrong and if it was me i think i wud leave and go back home. u are too young to be dealing with this kinda crap and i think that u really need to speak to ur partner and explain to him that while they are there u will not be? i hope this helps
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