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writes:My wife (Erin) is super jealous of my ex girlfriend (Maggie). Erin thinks Maggie is super hot, popular, totally unstable, etc. The thing is though, she's mediocre looking and is a total loser; while Erin is at least a 9/10 and the most attractive thing about her is she is not crazy. Except for this one thing... She just will not let it go and it's totally ruining our relationship. She stalks her Facebook page, calls and texts her, hangs out with her behind my back, among other stuff. Recently I told her that if it doesn't stop, it's gonna be over, but she continues to go behind my back. She deactivates her facebook page for like a day just to shut me up but then reactivates it as soon as I'm not looking. She hides pictures of Maggie on her phone and computer. Honestly, I could care less about who she hangs out with or talks to but this one girl (that she so persistently seeks out) it completely ruins her mood, makes her feel horrible, which in turn ruins our relationship. That plus now she is going behind my back and I flat out can't trust her. How can I go on like this? Why won't she work to save our marriage? She literally won't change anything she's doing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): It sounds like your wife is super insecure. What about your ex is she fixated on? And what brought your ex into your relationship anyway? Are you still friends with her? Do you still talk to her? Do you consistently talk about her? How long have you two been together? Married? How long has this been going on? How old are you two? Did you two meet when you and your ex were still together? There's a lot of information left out here that we need to properly give you advice.
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Why have you rated your wife's appearance on a scale? Does she know her rating? Maybe she is overreacting about all of this because she knows that in your eyes (wife or not)she is not that most beautiful thing you know. Beauty comes from the inside and out. Stop rating girls and talking about appearances to much and maybe she will chill. Her actions are extreme but this weird conflict/argument should not be an ultimatum for divorce. Are you looking for a way out?
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Hi,This is so bizarre? Why is your wife behaving this way? Did you give her reason to feel this way? What I don't understand is, why is your wife friend's with your ex?Seems to me that for some reason, she's obsessed with your ex, and her behavior is not normal. Your wife knows how you feel about this, yet continues doing the same things? Continues being friends, communicating, hiding? You need to get to the bottom of this, and find out what's the problem? Your wife's behavior doesn't make sense, but I am sure there must be a reason why? You need to have a serious talk with her again. I completely understand you, and it must be frustrating to live this way. In reality, this nonsense can actually destroy your marriage. It's sad.. But, it's a possibility, and your wife needs to understand that. Sit her down, talk, help her. Your wife is not taking you seriously. Good luck
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