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anonymous
writes:Me and my partner tried swinging it was his idea. Before I drank alcahol I told him what I was and was not ok with and that he should respect my wishes. He said ok. I got drunk and he broke all the rules (sex and kissing) I had discussed with him. I didn’t like swinging and now I feel betrayed and cheated on and a bit betrayed by the whole swinging experience. He didn’t want to listen when I told him I didn’t want to swing again. What should I do?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (29 August 2018):
 You should end it.
And NOT agree to stuff you really don't want to do. Not for a guy. And not to keep a relationship. You can't take back something like swinging. What you had BEFORE you won't ever have again. THAT was YOUR choice. YOU made that choice. Regardless of "rules".
YOU agreed" to "swinging" do you even GET what that means?
You say you set up rules and he broke the rules. Why?
Because he didn't CARE about your rules, he just wanted YOUR permission to cheat. And now that he got what he wanted... What can you do?
You don't want to try "swinging" again, but he doesn't care... So HOW much do you think he actually cares about you? *hint* not much.
End it and let him go about him "whoring" ways. Because that is what he wants, to have sex with other people. To not be faithful to you. To not respect you. And not give a shit about how you may feel about it.
You are so young to saddle yourself with a guy who can't even stay faithful to you. Who thinks adding more people to the bed will benefit the relationship. That is not how it works.
Want more for yourself.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 August 2018):
 You should end it, it is clear that you both want different things. You want a relationship, he wants a swinging partner! It really is as simple as that, you are not compatible. You made it clear you did not want him with someone else but he still went ahead and had sex anyway which shows he has not respect for you or what you say.
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