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anonymous
writes:Me and the long distance boyfriend have been up and down for the past few months. His ex gf has been contacting him trying to get back together with him. Each time he stated no but did not tell her about me, reasons unknown. I felt maybe there was something going on, so I nagged him for days and weeks to talk to her, to tell her I exist so that she would stop. I believe all my nagging became annoying and turned into hatred but he did not tell me. Instead he finally told her about me and badmouthed me in the process. Calling me a creature who is jealous and paranoid among other things. We got into a fight, I did not like the way he talked about me, and we took a week off.He sends me an email this morning stating he felt I was pushing him away, and trying to make him go back to his ex, so thats what he did. He said in part he also did it out of anger for me, in spite. He talked to her, tried to see if there was something there again, also went there to prove to himself if he really did feel anything for her still. He said he felt nothing, there was nothing, no spark, no nothing.Now he wants me back, did he cheat on me?What do I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 June 2010):
You're coming across as a woman with very low self esteem here. His ex got into contact with him, and then he claims you'd been pushing him away, and you even believe that your 'nagging' is responsible. To top it off, he spoke to this other woman and said there was nothing. He may have cheated, he may not have cheated. But he has very little respect for you in any way. I just don't think you should take him back. I think you should focus on your own life right now and find a guy closer to you.
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