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writes:*OP's Original Title*Hi, My girlfriend split up with me two weeks ago to this day. I am 21 and she is just turned 20. The week before she broke it of with me we met all my college friends in Dublin and went out and had a good night. The Sunday night before things got a bit messy she was asking me to go out with her for the night to a new club and when i said i couldn't she kept asking (she still went out and says she had a good night). So the day after i was supposed to go to her house to see her but she was too tired and i got a little annoyed, nothing serious. I told her that i wanted to see her and while texting she said she was sorry, that she had been acting weird the last few weeks...it had nothing to do with me, she didn't want to break up and she loved me. Then she rang me saying she needed a break....i was shocked and said okay. The next day i didn't hear from her and i text her that night saying i was worried about her and us, she said she was sorry but she needed this. We continued texting and eventually she broke up with me that night by text. Which is totally unlike her.Next day, i got no word from her so i text her asking if we could meet....she agreed. We met, she said....she needs to be on her own...that she hadn't been happy the last few weeks, which had nothing to do with me and that she used to want to spend every minute of everyday with me but she doesn't anymore. I was shocked and said we'd work it out....she kept saying, while crying, i need this...i need to be alone. I asked her is that us for ever? She said she doesn't no whats in the future. I haven't heard from her in two weeks and she is currently on holidays with her family for 10 days. I know were young but we've been through a lot together, her father was diagnosed with cancer for the third time and i came straight home from time in America to be with her, I changed college the same year to be close to her because she was in pieces after the death of her father. Over the last two weeks i've seen her once and we avoided each other, i can't believe whats going on and from what i am hearing is that she has no interest in working it out and she said to one of my friends that we were going nowhere and while chatting one of her best friends on facebook she says she doesn't want to go out with anyone for a long time. She is adamant its over. I don't no what to do....she is back from holidays in ten days i think. Sorry if i was rambling on...Thanks alot
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): You just have to accept it and move on. It's clear from everything you're saying that it's definitely over and she's done with the relationship.
Just don't do anything, you have your closure, she doesn't want to be with you anymore. It would be better for you to do what she is doing and just cut off all contact and move on with your life.
It really sucks, it's painful, it's hard, your heart wants to find anything it can to try and get her back but it's not going to happen and you have to accept that.
Good luck man, it's going to be a tough few weeks for you but it will get easier once you get past the initial stage of confusion and grieving for your loss.
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