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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid ,this guy at work we have the hots for each other. Problem being he is married and he is the boss to a certain extent.He and I went on conversating with one another talking about the ages of my kids and so on so forth then all of a sudden he must have forgot where he was. His eyes started looking over me like he was in a dazed what was going through his mind. I can't say but he almost didn't leave he kept on walking but would turn around and come back to me.I am not going to lie I have a great deal of LUST for this guy and we both know it's wrong and he feels the same.I can't controll what my heart feels but I know this is wrong and I don't want to give in to sex with him because I have been sex free for ten years now I wanted to save my born again virgin body for a man who can be mine nobody else's ?Help! This is wrong but temptation is bothering me:0
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Don't be the "other" woman and break up this man's family.
Take that lust and get yourself on dating sites and find yourself a nice single man.
Get yourself under control and no more "family" talks or getting cozy with the boss. Cut off the contact as much as possible. Let it be "strictly" all work.
You could find yourself out of a job and you will be the source of office gossip. Don't endanger your career this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2013): Actually probably he will be reluctant to go all the way with you if the opporunity arises. Most married men are like that.They flirt but when offered the chance to go to a higher level they retract. He is probably looking just for some fun and excitment away from the boredom of marriage.This really depends on you than on him. If you think that you can't resist your lust to keep away from him then the best thing is to find another job.Remember living an affair with a married man is big problem and lead to alot of pain and agony mostly for you and his wife.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 February 2013):
 You have lust for him OP. Other than this one time he zoned out on you is there any other indication from him that he wants an affair with you?
has he told you he feels this way for you or are you basing it on what he does vs what he says?
you are correct you can't control your feelings but you can control your actions... a mad crush is fun and miserable at the same time...
but you can control your actions.... you know it's wrong to be with someone elses' husband.... so you just say no.
if you say you CAN'T say no then you are creating the situation yourself because you can. Perhaps it's because you are a "born again virgin" and have denied yourself human contact for so long that you would be willing to be amoral with someone else's partner.
if you "must" give in then at least be honest with yourself and say "I WON'T say no" own the actions and behaviors you do....
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reader, Sylph +, writes (16 February 2013):
Be strong and persistent in your decision, work against your lust, he is a married man!! His wife will be the one he sleeps next to at then end of the day, not u! This lust is just a phase, it will fade away when you adapt yourself to thinking that nothing is gonna happen between you two. Also, think about the miserable family you might break up, you wouldnt like that, and think that you will always be a fling for him, a kind of incentive so he could enjoy work more. Block any sexy thoughts concerning him, and keep the office door open at any time, also pretend you are busy if he asks you out to coffee or something. Stay strong girl!
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