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writes:My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me!Two weeks ago my husband received a call from someone at 11:30pm on a weekend. He didn't pick up, but someone had apparently left a message and upon asking him who it was, he said someone -some car company doing surveys. So I said ok. I picked up his phone infront of him to call my mother and he reacted weirdly and snatched the phone from me thinking that I might have redialled the number from recieved calls. He looked very scared. Later that night I was able to jot the number down quickly and called the number the next day and a female voice answered the phone and when I asked if it was a car company she said no it's private number. I became very suspicious that day. A few days later I came across a one year old email message that was sent from my husband to a call girl an escort (name of company was in the email) asking if she was working today and when she could meet. I have been devasted, completely heart broken and haven't slept for days now thinking about how to confront him becuase I love him very much and to think of leaving him is devastating but what he has done is also devastating. He does take good care of me and respects me in every way. We have had good sex life and have been happily married for four years. But to come to terms with this, to face this....I don't know how to resolve this situation. If I do tell him now, will he ever be the same again? Will he quit? He surely has breeched all the moral values and broken marriage vows. I am truly shattered and deeply hurt. I am trying very hard to send him signals and indirectly have been saying things and one day I just broke down infront of him and asked him if he has ever cheated or slept with another woman to which he answered no. He also once cried and told me how much he loves me and how could i even think this way. I am so confused. someone please help. How do I tell him? I don't want to loose him. He has given me everything...I fear losing all of those if I ask him to confess. Please help me someone. I am shattered and feel betrayed.
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reader, disappointedwoman +, writes (29 August 2008):
I just want to reiterate...calling cheating a sex addiction doesn't make it a disease. Below is a really great quote from Abe Lincoln that is directly applicable to these cheating jerks and their claims that they can't help it because they are addicts: If you call a tail a leg, how many legs does a dog have?It’s four. Calling a tail a leg doesn’t make it one.
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reader, disappointedwoman +, writes (29 August 2008):
My advice to all women going through this is GATHER EVIDENCE!!!! Most women just freak out and confront the guy..and he erases all the evidence of his behavior, and then denies doing it. Also, don't have sex with him again after you find out, because if you choose to divorce him, any infidelity that occurred before that is considered a non-issue. You are considered as "reconciled" and you can't file a divorce on the grounds of infidelity based on anything he did prior to the "reconciliation."
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reader, disappointedwoman +, writes (29 August 2008):
I have been in your shoes. It took me over a year to get get over the shock and file for divorce. My husband has practically bankrupted us with what he calls his "hobby". Anybody who wants to privately email about this, please feel free to email me at [moderator's note: please abstain from including personal information] There is such a huge underground subculture of men who do this and convince themselves that they aren't really cheating because there isn't any emotion involved. Get real, guys. There is a d**k involved, so it is still cheating!!!! Sorry to be profane, but it is so irritating how men can fool themselves. I really want to talk to other women about this because whenever I tell friends what my husband did, I feel like a circus freak with a very entertaining story. They can't relate....who could? Thanks, D
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): My girlfriend wanted me to have a prostitute to "spice up" our sex lives. It turned her on to think of it. She even went and chose the girl for me. I didn't really want to but went along with her wishes.
But then it turned out she really wanted to have a male prostitute herself, also to spice up our relationship. I let her have her male prostitute and she loved it. Unfortunately it only made me feel depressed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): My husband always kept me on tight budget while secretly paying escorts 300 plus. One time early in our marraige, he kissed me and his breath smelled like someones ass. When he left his work after 30 years, I stumbled across a huge list of escorts and their particulars. He even had a false name "john brooks" and aan escort acct with handle "blondlover". He had an ad in friendfinder and says his wife is hot. I used to never refuse him sex but it is really hard to have it with him now. I guess I am now retired by him as a sexual haven. Found porn tape in his drawer the other day and placed it in spot he would know he didn't put it. Nothing I do helps and he has never been broken before God and me for this although he did cry. He cried the first time I found out but hasn't changed his behavior. I feel so lonely and betrayed. I deeply love him and knows he doesn't love me. I am beautiful and trim. Very sexy to all but him. I give up!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Recently I too found out that my boyfriend of 1 yr
had been contacting escorts services online. Of course he has denied ever going threw with it. But I know all to well and I'm not a trusting person (which he knows) and barley trust myself. So I feel like he is lying. Even though he tells me that our relationship is perfect and has no reason to be doing that. Well then last week he was away on business and I came across a wrong hotel receipt someone elses name on the receipt so I called to get the correct one faxed and low and behold escort numbers on his hotel bill. So I confront him again and he came up with a quick answer that a coworker not staying at his hotel used his room while he was working in the hotel convention room down below. The co-worker needed to use his room to make phone calls... how stupid does he think i am.... not to mention he called 2 numbers twice at 20 mins a time. So I googled the numbers but didnt bother calling because they are going to protect their "client" So now I decided that if I come across anything else... we are over. I know now that he has been calling these services long before I came around and trust me...I can do anything an escort "callgirl" can do! and then some...I am 30 and he is 45 and I give it to him to where he is worn completly the hell out by the time i am done! but at any rate still looks to these services.. unfortunetly i have entered into this relationship where it must be an addiction for him at this point. So knowing this totally x's out how perfect everything seems. I am not innocent by no means but I would never hire and pay $ 400.00 per hr for sex. So the only thing that is giving me the thought of giving him this second chance all though he hasnt admitted to anything is that I have cheated on him. Not saying it makes me feel better. But who wants to live that way..... So I am confused as to what to do in the meantime...the thought of the services always comes up when i am around him. Not healthy at all. I try and dismiss it since I am no saint myself. But wont the next time.. I dont care how great things seem.
Houston, Texas
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): As to why men use escorts. If you do not get it at home you will go look elsewhere. And an escort has no strings. So long as you visit the better escorts you will have very low risk of desease. But to all the wifes out there. Once a month is not enough. Once a week is borderline. So if you look back and see skipped months. Worry. You are not sticking to the marraige agreement. But he loves you and do not want to leave you. So he begs and begs. Untill he gives up. Then he goes through the denial stage. I can do without. But when it has gone long enough. A plan must be made. So ladies. You can only blame yourselves in most cases.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Being a "call girl" as you call it. It is sad to say but your husbands cheat because 1. they can. 2. after you get married a lot of wives let themselves go (ie gain weight, don't dress up, all about the kids 3. A lot of wives do not have sex with their husbands. (To the woman who has not had sex with her husband for 20years who did you expect him to do?? Just go without?? How selfish of you) It is not they do not love you and a lot of them still find their wives attractive. but they are men and when a 40year old man can date a 20 year old woman for 300/hr why wouldn't he. Yes his 40 yr old wife may still be attractive, but she doesn't compare to a 20yr old.Oh and 1-2xs a week is not a lot of sex. I am in my 20s and I have sex with my partner at least 9 - 12xs a week. And no one is getting tired of it neither is your husband. My advice is either a) learn to accept it 2) learn to spice up your love life. Loss some weight go to Victoria Secret and get some toys. Spice up your marriage. Find out what his fantasies are and give it to him 2xs a day. And if this doesnot work then you may have a sex addict on your hands and may have to leave your marriage if you can't accept it. Oh and for the gal who said her husb paid 100 for a bj covered.... 100 is pretty low and I doubt he used a condom just like I doubt he used one when he gave her oral. Internet escorts are so of the cleaniest ladies out there. We are advocates of safe sex and many of us are college educated women who value safety. It is safer for him to see an escort than a lady at the bar. Our body is a business and we take darn good care of it.I wish all you ladies the best of luck in your marriages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): Ladies-
I am dealing with a similar issue. HOWEVER, I recently realized that my fear of confronting my husband with this issue was that a)once I left- any other woman would get the man that I never could b) "she" won. I guess that I had to realize that what he was dealing with wasn't a fault of mine- but a void in him, that I could never, no one could ever fill. He has too much pride to admit that he has a problem, and is more comfortable falsely blaming me for his shortcomings. (He told me that made me your feel like I wasn't attractive to cover for the abnormal, inappropriate, and truly unattainable sexual desires.) I struggled for years to cater to what he wanted- and it was never enough. Just realize that you as a person should never compromise who you are, because they have an illness. Sexual addiction is like any other addiction. You can lose yourself trying to cure someone of an addition that they won't even admit to. Yes, a marriage is sacred, but you know if you were denying something that was harmful to your family, you would want your spouse to do anything necessary to protect your kids, or themselves. I always put EVERYONE else before me, but know that if you are not ok- neither are your kids.
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reader, tezz  +, writes (12 June 2008):
well ladies i am a man and have been married for 14 years and have two great boys, firstly let me say that cheating on your spouse is wrong! but there could be many reasons for this, here are mine, when my wife and i started our relationship we had great sex all the time, oral and all that you can think of it was great and then we had a baby and got married and the sex was gone! where did the oral go and all the fun left. i then had to beg for sex and it was boring then whoops my second son was born now i was third in line for attention, dont get me wrong i love my family and wouldn't change it for anything. and the kids do need the attention, so years of not getting any well maybe once a month and all of a sudden it turns into well frankly i dont know?? then my wife put on a few pounds and the lights have to be off well no its even more dull, and the flowers and the attention i devote to her still cant change a thing, sexualy she just not into it, well maybe five years ago i was working and a lady i met wanted a bit more from me, i declined as the fear of some other women wreking my life was simply not worth it, it dawned on me that escorts wont fall in love with me and i not with them. now if i see an escort the fustration is taken away and i feel like a man should, as you ladies are aware that men are easy to get and understand we like food and sex, its not complicated if a wife takes care of bussines then this would not happen. men think of sex all day and every time he walks past a pretty girl he thinks of sex so when he get home and gets none well you get where i'm going. for men love is strong and sex is just sex when its an escort its just sex!!!!! remember escorts will do things that wife wont but use to for some reason things change. the old saying when you get married the sex sex stops its not made up its a fact,,in some culture's men are allowed a mistress or two as long as the wife comes first, maybe not such a bad idea, does a lion only have one lioness i dont think so,, anyway here's the point if there were no escorts i probably would have been divorced and my kids would be in a broken home not my first choice, look inside youself and see if you have a role in matter...... so i thank all escorts as they make the best marriage counselors.....tezz
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): oh god i have the same problem been married for nearly 5 years and have 2 beautiful daughters , my husband was always a cheater with other girls and me like a dumb wife kept forgiving him forgiving him then i was separated from him for whole year and wheni came back to himi found out about escorts, i have argued with him and argued with him but it got me no where.....he kept saying that how can u think this maybe someone else used my phone my internet etc he has a answer for everything...........last 6 months i thought things were changing and was so happy only to find out he is up to his old tricks this tim ei deceided to confront him in a totally different way,...I said to him im not angry or upset anymore cos i recognise there is a problem here and i will help you get thru it ....do you know what he replied with..he said no you have the problem you are mental its all in your head.........now he wont talk to me and i quite frankly have had enuff unless i give him somehting that will kill his libido or kill myself ...........i feel so suicidal at times but have 2 daughters
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Hello Ladies...
Guess What? I beleive you are attracted to this...I unknowingly am! My first husband...loved me, sex addict, now....I found Call Girl magazine? Black people meet? My husband, VP stock firm, lilly white neighborhood, etc... I am so afraid, I feel like I attrct this type of man! I am attractive, great career, sexual..ie fantasies etc, not a prude at all! He tells me fantasies, I do not allow others to enter ... I am afraid? Aids etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): I have the same issue....I found a call girl magazine, lot's of photos and numbers etc...my husband swears he loves me...spoils me...has an obsession...
I do not get it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): I am going through the same and I don't know how to cope. He started his behavior in 2001 as far as I can tell, just six years after we got married. And everytime I find out about a chat or an appointment he has made with one of these online prostitutes It somehow becomes my fault. I don't know what to do but I do know that it makes me want to kill myself. I do everything I can to make him happy and I am pretty, and a nice person so why would someone do something so bad to someone they are suppose to love? Maybe he does not love me but just enjoys the privliages of being married to a wife that does everything for him. I even went to the police to try and get them to do something about the last girl I found out about. But they offered no help. I told his mother again but she can't help me. I prayed to God but he is not listening. It makes me just want to kill myself and disappear forever. I hope you ladies fair better then me. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): I too found out over the summer that my husband is seeing escorts. Found the number on his cell phone. Then there were no more numbers, and I found out that shortly after he got a prepaid cell phone that he keeps at work that he now uses for his adultery. I read on a "sex worker" site that many of them advise their married "clients" to do this, and other tips so that the wife doesn't find out. A lot of cash has been unaccounted for and missing for months. He's come home after working all day in 100 degree heat smelling like a flower garden from the waist down(massage oil, soap, lotion?). I am probably the stupidest woman on earth. Here's why. We were married once before, he cheated on me (not with escorts, as far as I know, but went on "dates" with women he met from personal ads). We divorced, and a few years later he came after me again, wanted to be with me, was a changed man, learned his lesson, found God, etc. I didn't believe him, of course, but kept talking to him, started seeing him, and indeed I found that he was a totally different wonderful man, and stayed that way consistently. We had the best communication, which we never had before. My trust in him slowly started coming back. We were best friends in addition to romantic relationship. It was like a dream come true. He broke me down bit by bit and I fell for it eventually. He asked me to marry him and I accepted. Things stayed wonderful for over a year, then he started acting strange to me, mean sometimes, then loving, then mean. Our communication started breaking down. Then I found out what's been going on. I am devastated all over again. I don't mean to discourage anyone, we all have our own perspectives, but when I read about "sex addiction," and "terrible childhoods," and "he needs counselling," all I can think of is that, true or not, it really doesn't matter. My husband had a terrible childhood, we'd been through TONS of counselling our first marriage, he even found the Lord (or so he said), and he demonstrated "change" brilliantly. And we are back to square one. I can't believe that I'm living this nightmare AGAIN. I'm 47 years old now and the thought of going through all that again, starting over, etc., makes me SICK. I finally subscribe to the old adage, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Simple as that, in my mind. I'm to the point that I don't care about his childhood, his "addiction," or whatever. He's immoral, that's the root of the problem. Not sure any counsellor can instill character and integrity in a person. If he's addicted to sex with whores, he had no business marrying me. I'm sorry to say I will never trust him again, even if he would want to "seek help." I haven't confronted him with this yet. Still thinking of my options. I want to be clear-headed and make decisions that are made in a practical calm way, not in the heat of anger and devastation. When I confront him, if that's when he would want to get help (which I doubt would be his response anyway), would that really have any meaning? He's not hot to trot to "get help" now, he's hot to trot to be with his whores. That's the truth of the matter. I probably could never trust a man again in my life. That's what he's done to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): I'm another woman who found out just in the past week that my partner of 10 years has been using escort services. It is devastating, no doubt. I have left him for good as this is just another lie in a very long string of lies, albeit the very worst one imaginable. I had to leave because I could never have sex with him again after finally knowing the truth and having those images in my head.I don't know your individual situation but I would be wary of forgiving him or moving forward without some plan of action (not words or apologies) that will help him get better, assuming of course that he wants to get better. Pick up the book "When your lover is a liar" by Susan Forward. It helped understand why men lie and how it affects us and our relationships. If nothing else, it will give you some strategies on how to cope with your current situation. Has he lied to you before and now you feel that you have to be a detective? If so, think about how that makes you feel and how that degrades your well-being. Stay strong and remember that you are the highest priority in your life. And deep breathing really helps :-)
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reader, devastation2 +, writes (7 September 2007):
Sarah we are in san diego california,right now we are in the not really talking unless it is about the kids..I told him he needed counseling he said fine if you make the appointment but then says insurance will only pay for 6 sessions,but says it with major attitude..I read if I make him go it wont do any good.If he was to say to me that he knows he has and addiction and knows he needs help then I will be there but right now he is in the I know it wa wrong but I dont know if I want to say I will ever do it again and get help phase..I may see baout talking to him tonight before he leaves to ref..Something has to change he has to give me a reason to even try..Right now I cannot see the light at the end of teh tunnel,and of course no intimacy really just a peck here and there..He tells me that he loves me and that will never change..I guess I just dont understand this kind of addiction when it's not like I deny him.Anyways I will write again ,especially if anything changes..
Devastation2
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): OMG, I just found out the same thing this morning about my husband after looking in his phone do his acting strange. We are separated now for almost two years, but been trying to work things out and we do have what I thought was a monogamous relationship. I want to confront him too, but I am afraid it will make things worse as we split up in the first place due to his relationships with other women. I feel very sad and love him very much. I wish us both luck. :(
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reader, sarah31 +, writes (7 September 2007):
sarah31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello "devastation2"
I am sorry to hear this happened to you too. I don't think we are alone, there are many women like us who face this in their life time. Our husbands have an addiction, it is not any different from alcohol or any other kind of addiction. Does your husband think he has a problem or is he ok with it. He would have to first accept that he has a problem and be willing to change his behvior. If not, then he is in denial. My husband tells me that whenever he slept with another women, he always felt ashamed and guilty afterwards, he didn't know how to stop his act and his obsessive thoughts about sex. You see, it's a mental disorder and the person needs counselling. It's not that he doesn't love you, if he really loves you and kids, then he would want to change now that you know his secret. Ask him if he wants help. There is help out there. I don't know where you live but just like alcoholics anonymous, there is sex addicts anonymous (SAA), support group for people and families who suffer from this problem. There is also, sexaholics anonymous, and S-Anon.
I was devastated when I also found out but I think I am coping ok with the fact, what else can I do, my husband has promised to undergo counselling and therapy for his behavior. It's a life long process of change and change is not easy. If your husband is willing to change and admit he has a problem then you must support him. I am currently reading two books to understand what sexual addiction is all about. One is called "out of shadows" and the other one is "don't call it love, recovery from sexual addiction" both by Patrick Carnes. Both of these books have opened my eyes. The thing to note is that we can try all we want to control our husbands, it will make our situation worse. Controlling is like adding fuel to fire. The more we control (i.e spy etc) the worse his addiction will get. Both our husbands need counselling. Find out from your family physician or just find psychologist or counselling offices in yellow pages and ask them if they have someone who specializes in the treatment of sexual disorders specially sex addiction. Find out who in your area specializes and tell your husband about it. Give him this option of counselling. If he truly loves you he would want to do anything to make you happy and save the marriage. Keep in touch. If you want you can send me an email through this website. otherwise, just write to me in the column and I would be more than happy to talk to you. Don't worry. But do ask your husband.
Will write to you later. Sarah
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reader, devastation2 +, writes (6 September 2007):
I also have just discovered my husband hired an escort paid her $100 dollars ,she gave him oral (he say with a condom) and he gave her oral.. Well I thought we were happy,around the time this occurred.. I also discovered his ad on wildmatch.com saying he wanting a discreet relationship with someone who didn't mind sharing.this was around 7-8 months ago so not that terribly long,and he has memberships on sites for escorts.and he used to have a membership n adult friend finder..Anyways it was a year long case for me.The problem is besides this big one is he says he loves me but doesnt want to tell me he will never do it again,I flat out asked him what he wanted in this marriage and he said everything,so if I would allow him to have sex with others he would,even though he says he knows its wrong,but then when I have asked him what he wants he says he doesnt know.But never has he said he wanted just me..Sex has always been great he also says and anything she did I have done and.. Why would a man who got a vasectomy cause were done having kids and so he wouldnt have to use condoms,want to get BJ's and sex when he has to use a condom with them and not with me..Can you believe my husband has said it was exciting..I asked him why was it so exciting he says it just was,like that and this whole thing isn't like being stabbed in the heart..I feel like there has been a death in the family.I took my wedding ring off,later on he did too.Things dont really seem to be improving,I have 2 daughters to consider,havnt decided if I am leaving or staying for the kids and my financial sake.All I know is he has to change and I cant force him,even if I could forgive him..Sarah31 if you want to talk I would love to have someone who is going through this to talk too..I have been married to him almost 16 years and he didnt cheat til we had been married about 11 years..
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reader, sarah31 +, writes (5 September 2007):
sarah31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello everyone,So this is what has happened..I presented the evidence....he was in complete shock, didn't know what to say, he kept quiet for several minutes and then confessed, He fell to his knees and with folded hands kept asking for forgiveness. He has been doing this for many years, long before we got married and is now a severe sex addict. After much tears and talking, he revealed to me about his past...horrible past with abuse, neglect, sexual abuse.....So, to make the long story short, he has agreed to go to counselling..he admits that he has a problem which has been bothering him for a long time but can't seem to stop himself from this addiction. When he engages in the acts, he said he feels horrible, ashamed. He wants to end this and wants me to be with him because he loves me and knows that it is horrible. He states he is happy that I discovered the emails otherwise he would have never had the guts to confess. He has promised he would undergo extensive therapy and counselling and will do whatever he can to build my trust in him which has been severely shattered. I am hanging in there, hoping things will get better, I really hope so... please keep praying
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): my husband has not had sex with me for 20 years and i recently found out that he has been seeing someone else for 20 years, videos their sex sessions and then watches them after i go to bed. he also had photos and videos of any of our pretty friends and sends desparate text messages to a close female telling her how much he misses her. I found a video of him having sex with someone else and asked him if he wants to leave me. He said he needs me and would be devasted if i left. I am middle aged and do not want to end up alone. I am so sad that i have spent all these years being a faithful wife, a great housekeeper and terrific companion but now discover that my husband fancies almost everyone except me. He has been kind and supportive in many ways. What prospect does a middle aged woman have under these circumstances?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Hi,
How did you get on? did he confess let me know how you got on?
Jay.
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reader, sarah31 +, writes (31 August 2007):
sarah31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to both of you for replying to my question. I truly appreciate it. I have made up my mind and am going to definitely confront and converse with him as soon as he returns from out of town. Let's see what he has to say. I will speak with him in a matter of fact manner and will present the evidence I have against him (emails, phone calls). Please pray for me. I will let you know what happens. Keep in touch.
Thanks again!!
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 You cannot sit on this information anymore. You must confront him. Only he can give you answers and it's time for the jig to be up. Simply tell him you phoned the number because he was acting so strange that night, so you called it and found out it was an escort service. Then stop talking and wait for him to fill in the blanks before you leap into 101 questions about why and what for. Sometimes it's the body language and the way they speak that will tell you more than what actually comes out of their mouths. Pay attention to all these things. Keep your wits about you. Stay calm, stay in control as much as you can and get to the bottom of it. Unfortuantely, I would probably file for trial separation at this point and consider going through with a divorce. Betrayal of this magnitude would never be repaired in my mind, but everyone is different and there are actually women who can somehow manage to get past something like this. Only you can decide. But one thing is for sure, he has a serious problem that may require counseling and you will probably never trust him completely ever again. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): Hi,
Firstly you need to ask him just come right out with what you have said about the escort number and ask him why he is telling you one thing when it is clearly the other? Tell him you called the number and the girl told you she was a whore!
I feel he maybe cheating on you my hubby of many years than you have together has been using whores they are not escorts dear WHORES SLUTS and that is what he has been calling now you have to be affirmative here if he keeps lying tell him you are leaving him till he confesses what he has been up to calling and e-mailing these SLUTS!
I would be generally concerned for you if you are only married 4 yrs and he feels the need to use these services you have to ask yourself is this something he had a problem with before you met? Is he a sex addict? You really need to ask and talk to him as this will only get worse as soon as he knows you are on to him it might be caught and nipped in the bud in time.
Check all your bank statements, his phone, his pockets, his underwear, everything he goes out with check it!
If he continues to lie give him an ultimatium tell the truth or your out his life believe me when you do this he will bow down if he genuinely loves you he will if not then you have to ask why you are with him?
Men use Whores for sexual pleasure that's it no love nothing they go to them and pay for sex not just for pleasure but for the fact they can walk away after it no strings you see!! and if he is coming home to you doing this and sleeping with you unprotected i would seriously get yourself along to the nearest clinic to get checked out medically for any STD's Hiv etc; you must do this and he has to too!He has no respect for you if he is doing this mine did it for 6 years behind my back and i never knew so yes he will lie and lie till you bleed it out of him.
I hope you can sort this out i will come nback on later and talk good luck and remember be positive tell him them or me!!
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