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writes: I am 25 and married. my husband in the begining of our courtship was able to keep up and now he says i want it all the time and i am a sex addict and he is 26. I do want it everyday many times and that is how i was since 14 as well and have not changed in fact my urge has increased. Please help. I don't want this to ruin my marriage. As a toddler i was malested and as a teen raped a few times, would this have anything to do with my uncontrolable urge for sex all the time. Thank you, Mrs. Out of control
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Hi,So sorry to hear of your past really messed you up has'nt it?Your addiction needs adressed NOW see a sex therapist who specialises in your behaviour unfortunately i see you going elsewhere if hubby is unwilling or can't keep UP!!My husband is a sex addict nothing in his past has caused this i.e from childhood.He was using porn to satisfy himself then sex chatlines then prostitutes unknown to me for years! he is ill just like you so sorry you need to adress this before it ruins your marriage it has ruined mine and read from others on this site who have experienced this not a happy outcome unless you are prepared to do something about it i don't know why you want sex everyday you are young maybe that's why i dont recall when i was your age that ever being a priority in my daily things so maybe you do have a problem as far as the amount you need to be satisfied i feel you are an addict too so sad to let sex ruin your life like this yor hubby is young too so you must be careful as he may want to move away from this behaviour if you don't get it fixed so you have really only one option here see a counsellor right away get the appt fixed today pay for it so you get seen quicker don't delay your marriage is relying on this geting solved hope this helped.Mature woman of 53.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): Hi love,After what you said about your past, (I presume all this happened to you before or around the age of 14) I think love you need to see a counsellor, Have you ever seen one after this terrible abuse? I think it can go either way love you either dont feel comfortable with sex or in your case you dont feel comfortable with out it. You love your husband and he loves you thats not the problem and you have obviously thought there could be a reason behind this, as you were so young when all this happened if you never got any help at the time it very well could be certain emotions deep within that havent yet been let out, go and see someone and I hope it all works out for you. TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): everyone has different levels of sexual stamina, but if you are unsure about it you should see a psychologist. It will help deal with past issues as well as come to terms with ur sexuality. i had similiar concerns and getting professional advice helped me come to terms with everything from my desire to abuse issues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): its perfectly normal to want sex everyday!! after all he is your husband and should be happy that you are coming to him for it and not elsewhere.. you could buy a vibrator.. that works and u dont always have to ask him for it.. once he sees that you are not comin to him anymore and using ur "toy" instead .. he will want u again and finally appreciate wat he has! good luck hope this works!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I'm very sorry to hear about what happened to you when you were younger. Perhaps being sexually molested at such a young age did give you a taste for sex, but I doubt that is the reason. Some people are just more addicted to sex than others.Saying that, it is good that you have a good sex life, although your husband is going to get weary of it as time goes on. So I would suggest getting sex toys and vibrators, etc, to try and fulfill your needs a bit. I'm sure it won't ruin your marriage but I completely understand how you are worried about this and want to get it sorted so if the above advice doesn't work then try visiting your doctor. (Mega cringe, I know, but they've heard it all before!) Tell them about your problem and see what he/she says. They may be able to give you advice on how to keep your desire for sex under control.Hope this helps!XxXxX
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