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Just can't say goodbye, why?

Q.   what is wrong with me? I keep insisting that I remain in my ex-fiance's life. we broke up about a month ago. she just stopped all communication with me with no reason or anything. she has a disorder called ptsd and through everything, I still love ...

A.   19 August 2010: Give yourself a break, a month isn't that long. You loved this person and probably still do. After all, at one point the two of you planned on spending your lives together. These things take time. PTSD is different for everyone; try to under... (read in full...)

How do I get confidence?

Q.   i really want a boyfiend but i don't think i will get one because i don't have any confident. How do i get confidence ? ...

A.   19 August 2010: Do a lot of self examination. It's different for everyone but working to improve yourself, your image, your beliefs and views can make a big impact on who you are and how you are perceived. Remember, you need to get your affirmations from yourself ... (read in full...)

Worried my partner is cheating on me due to his erratic behavior.

Q.   my partner has cheated before and i took him back. i have caught him out with other lies again. even lying to me about why he has stripppers ph numbers. i question him about things and he yells at me and says he is sick of being question and ...

A.   18 August 2010: I've found in my life that it is best to trust you instinct. Often when I suspect something I simply pray that God will open doors for me and let the truth be discovered and often times after that prayer I don't even have to look before I find ... (read in full...)

Worried my partner is cheating on me due to his erratic behavior.

Q.   my partner has cheated before and i took him back. i have caught him out with other lies again. even lying to me about why he has stripppers ph numbers. i question him about things and he yells at me and says he is sick of being question and ...

A.   18 August 2010: I've found in my life that it is best to trust you instinct. Often when I suspect something I simply pray that God will open doors for me and let the truth be discovered and often times after that prayer I don't even have to look before I find ... (read in full...)

He beats me up... but I always forgive him.

Q.   I HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT HE IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO OTHER GIRLS.WE HAVE BEING TOGETHER FOR 8 YEARS AND HE BEATS ME UP.AND WHEN I LEAVE HIM N GO OUT TO STAY WITH MY COUSINS HE CALLS ME UP AND BEGS FOR FORGIVENESS.WHAT SHOULD I DO?I LOVE HIM SO MUCH SO I ...

A.   17 August 2010: A lot of people will judge you and say things like, "How can you love a person like that who beats you?" Don't feel bad for the fact that you love him but understand that just because you still love him doesn't mean you are suppose to stay. You ... (read in full...)

In love with my stepdaughter...

Q.   I recently slept with my step daughter, she's 20 i'm 40 and now have these deep, deep feelings of love for her and everything I try to I can't get her out of my heart, she has mentioned to other family members that she has feelings for me as well. ...

A.   16 August 2010: Never ever come between a Mother and her Daughter. Stop talking to the woman (MOM) who you say you do not have any feelings for, you are just leading her on and being selfish. Step out of this situation all together...it will end up painful ... (read in full...)

My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me!

Q.   My husband is using call girls and escort services? I am devastated. Please help me! Two weeks ago my husband received a call from someone at 11:30pm on a weekend. He didn't pick up, but someone had apparently left a message and upon asking him ...

A.   16 August 2010: This post is rather old but it keeps receiving so many updates and answers. It seems to pop up after an internet engine search so I must ask....anyone who was or is in this situation, the husband and escort situation (since there appears to be ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says its normal for men to cheat

Q.   I always caught my boyfriend of 7 years cheating on me. I think he cheated on me 6 times or more. We already have a baby and I thought that he would change. Every time he is caught cheating he always says sorry and promises that he won't do it ...

A.   15 August 2010: I think your boyfriend is full of **** and you know what you must do. You may see a mountain of pain in front of you and you are still clinging to the false hope that he will change. He won't and that mountain of pain - long journey of recovering, ... (read in full...)

He's 17, I'm 13, he wants sex but I think I'm too young!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm gay and in my first relationship he's kind and he's everything I want in a man but since he's 17 and I'm 13 it's quite strange but it's both of our first relationship he wants to have sexual relations but I think I might be too you...

A.   15 August 2010: I'm no doctor nor do I play one on TV, but.... I can tell you that from several sources I have read that having sex too early can impair your sexual development - as if this is something that you would carry with you through life only to rear it's ... (read in full...)

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