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writes:Hi auntsI got my second marriage and I got trust issues now because my first marriage ended with betrayal and I am afraid this might turn up in same manner. I don't understand if all men do this. My husband is always checking his Facebook account and I also caught him 3 times adding random girls whom I don't know and chatting with some of them. The main question is why? When I confronted him the first 2 times he blamed me for accusing him. And on top of that he blocks me in his account and then does his dirty stupid work. This last time I checked his phone without him knowing and saw he has blocked me and added some random girls and msged them. What must be the reason he's doing this? He says he loves me and he doesn't have any problem being with me then y this? When I caught him the last time he promised me that he won't be doing all this stuff and if he ever does he will let me know what stupid stuff has he done. But I am very much sure he has started it again bcz his spending more of his time on phone rather then me.
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reader, Katbug  +, writes (14 September 2018):
 Sorry, marriages don't start with husbands blocking wives on all of their social medias. This is awkward and i feel like you are insecure and unsure of yourself so you are still with him. i dont want to tell you to end the marriage with so little info, but just form this, it sound better in the long run to be away from him, and in a new relationship.
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reader, mystiquek  + ♥, writes (12 September 2018):
 If you don't trust your husband then your marriage is already on very shaky ground. A relationship will not survive without trust. I totally understand where you are coming from he hasn't really given you reasons to trust him. My ex husband was like this, he started lying and being sneaky about everything. Who wants to live like that? I'm sorry to say but it sounds like you need to get everything in order and plan on leaving if he will not come clean with you. I'm sure you aren't relishing the thought of divorce #2 so if you still love him try once more to talk to him and tell him to come clean. If he won't, then you know what you have to do. Wishing you well. Good luck
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (12 September 2018):
 "and if he ever does he will let me know what stupid stuff has he done" Bullshit he will and it just goes to show he cant self regulate or has no intention to stop his behaviours. Decent husbands don't text other women and blocking you so you can't see what he's up shouts RED FLAG. Don't be the bull in his shit...my advice would be while he's wasting his time being a cheating sneak, don't waste yours and get your affairs in order to call it quits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2018): He is blocking you because he doesn’t want you to see what he is doing. You’ve caught him not only adding random girls but talking to them too. He won’t change. His actions speak louder than his words!
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reader, N91  +, writes (12 September 2018):
 Because he’s looking to cheat?
Normal people who are happy in their relationship don’t do this. Unless you’re going to accept that he’s a lying scumbag then your only option is to leave. You have caught him at it before and he hasn’t changed so what are you expecting to happen?
Time to sort your finances out before a divorce, leave him to chat to whoever he likes on Facebook and to answer your question no, not all men do this, just the shitty ones.
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