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writes:I am getting stressed with my current relationship.She distant herself from me and come back close. After awhile, she distant herself again. It happened so many times.When she does that, she went missing the whole day. Not picking up phone call, replying text and talking online.At first, I worried about her because suddenly she went missing. I thought something could have happened to her. Since we are quite far, I couldn't go to her house to see if she is ok. I can only keep calling and text but she never return it.When she is back, she doesn't seem to have any problem at all. Everything is ok and she doesn't look like found another guy. This really makes me think she is playing the game.How you all think? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2008): Thank you for all the responses.We had talked for awhile. She didn't say a word about her disappearance and I didn't ask. Maybe it is not the time yet or she just won't tell because this happened so many times. She will just act normal.It is not that I am not giving her time. Yesterday, she told me she will be there waiting. Waited for hours, she wasn't there, of course I will get worried. I couldn't reach her which I believe she is avoiding me because it is impossible she didn't see the missed call and text for the whole day.That thought, worried me more. Since it happened so many times, I told her that she can be honest to me if she found another guy. I don't blame her but myself because I couldn't always be there for her and I know I shouldn't love her selfishy.I know it happened so many times, every time it turned out she is fine. Yes, I do feel I am stupid to keep falling for the same situation or trick?Every time she distance herself without a word, it hurts my feeling. I think I deserve to know what is happening. She is an adult. She knows I will worry about her and she just keep doing that. That is also the reason, I feel she is playing the game.
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reader, I am Tetreault +, writes (1 September 2008):
you said "her house"...so she lives on her own.
Well, two things. either she needs alone time, or shes cheating.
If she needs alone time, she's handling it wrong. She needs to communicate this with you.
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reader, Aunty Em  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Don't stress about it too much. My partner has said the same about me. One minute I can be very caring, loving and sincere. The next I can "switch" and become cold hearted and sad.
If she is like me. She is just a very sensitive soul, where something as minute as a glance taken in the wrong way can set her off in a daze. To eventually become monosyllabic and untalkative.
When she's in these moments of hers, don't chase her. Just let her know you are there for her when she is ready to talk about it, and how she is feeling.
She will appreciate you for that.
Good Luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 September 2008):
Perhaps she just wanted some time to herself. It was only one day!
Tell her that you were worried about her and ask her to let you know if she needs to go off and have some alone time again.
The she can go off and relax knowing she won't have 97 missed calls when she gets home.
Good Luck!! xx
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