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writes:Im a 16 year old boy , but i've been living a life of a 22 year old. I smoke cigarettes and booze. And i dont look my age. I look like a guy in 20's. I got a girl's phone number from my friend and fell in love with her through the phone. After meeting her i realised that she is working and she is 26. Ten years elder to me. But i told her im doing my final year, and i lied that my age is 22. She was frustrated at first, but then 4 years didnt make a big thing for her. Im madly in love with her. We had sex thrice and we are deeply into each other. We will not live without each other. Should i open up the truth and tell her im 16 and im a 10th standard student ? I really feel ashamed and guilty. But i need her in my life. We have been going out for the past 2 years. She will feel heartbroken when i open up ? And im not able to tell her the truth. Should i tell her or should i wait till i turn 21 ? I've asked for 6 years , so that i'll finish my college and work and then finally marry her.But the truth is i have to finish my 11th and 12th, then finish a degree, go for work and then marry her . Which will take me exactly 6 years. I really want to marry her. Please help me ppl...!! im dying everyday and im sure i will die for sure if she doesnt marry me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2011): Thanx ppl..! Im sure she's not gonna dump me.. Bt m afraid she'll feel hurt and bad if she comes to know she's been going out with a guy whoz 10 years younger than her ! Can i finish my studies nd then open up to her, cuz i will b in a position to marry her with a job in my hand ! So what do u guys think about it ..! And i really dont wanna lose her or hurt her ! help me out ..! :'(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Play the game, see how long/far you can last with her, break the highscore!!!!Ok jokes aside, maybe she is 14 looking like a 26 year old
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 You must be something! How could she not have noticed that you are way far younger than her? You must have been too smart to act like a 22 year old man! Anyway, if you intend to go serious in your relationship with her,the earlier the better for you to tell the truth. Sooner or later she will know it anyway, and worse, if it comes from other source other than you. In that case, she will feel cheated and not trust you. If that happens,your relationship may be put into jeopardy. By revealing your secret,it will test whether your love for each other will defy all odds. Goodluck!
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 I agree with Vintage - the longer this lie goes on, the worse it will be. Tell her the truth!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 You should not, nor can you, keep this a secret for six more years. One day she will find out, through someone or something. Then what? She will be devastated. Better that she find out from you now than in six years. Tell her the truth and accept the consequences, no matter how much you love her. If you think you two should be together, you have to pull truth from your deceit and she must accept you for who you really are, otherwise, this is an aimless relationship, no matter how strongly you feel about each other.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): wow thats quite a big difference. I met my bf online and he told me at the time he was 21 and I was 18 then. It then came out 2 years later that when we first met he was 16...right now he is 18 (19 later in the year) and i just turned 21. It bothers me a little but im glad hes actually 18 now because that doesnt feel so bad.So really you should always tell the truth but im afraid to say shes 26 and your only 16 she would have to really really love you to accept this one id think. So its up to you, tell her try work on it and hope she keeps you or maybe continue to lie for another few years but having lied to her for so long wont make her happy either.Kinda feels like a lose lose situation...I wish you all the best of luck though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): The longer you lie to her the worse it will be when she finds out. If you want to live in the gown up world then you have to act like it, tell her the truth, and let her decide what she wants to do.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 Starting a relationship on a lie is like building a house with no foundations.
If this girl is silly enough to fall for this lie for the next six years you deserve each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): be honest with her or if she found out any other way she would dump ya. what if she met your mates and they told her. u must be honest.
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