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writes:Heyyy so I'm up here in California for the next couple of years and I've met TONS of people but here's the problem, my friends fiance wants me to have sex with her. I've known this guy for about a month now but she's VERY persuasive and insistent on us having sex because she's not sure if she wants to be with this guy for the rest of her life... HELP!?!?
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reader, mooh  +, writes (9 June 2012):
No matter how tempting it is, do not fool around with your friend's fiancé! How would you like if he would do the same to you? "she's not sure if she wants to be with this guy for the rest of her life..." That is already a very bad sign if one of the future spouses is having doubts long before the wedding. Talk to your buddy about this.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 June 2012):
Woman who want to hook up with you are a dime a dozen, friends are not.
If I were you, I would record her and play it for your friend. If she's his fiancee and your his friend, IMO you have a moral obligation to let him know his future wife is a ho before he makes the biggest decision of his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): Having sex with you will not answer the questions she's having...you should understand that as well, and tell her. There is never a way to be certain of anything, but what she's trying is just wrong. I'm afraid she's better off not getting married at all at this point...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 June 2012):
 Don't have sex with her. Let some one else be the reason she breaks of her engagement, DO NO be THAT Douche! Let HER hold THAT bag of crap...
(because YOU will look like the asshat here and she will look like the tart)
She sounds sleazy. To put it mildly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): It will create a huge mess and destroy your reputation. Don't take the easy way.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Hmmm, this is a tough one, as personally I think the first time I'd just shrug it off and ignore it, but you don't know if she's asking other guys the same thing. If she were, then it'd be a good idea to let her potential husband know.
Is this because she's only ever been intimate with this one guy do you know? or just that she doesn't know if he's 'the one'?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 Do you need help because you feel tempted, or do you need help with dealing with this girl, and whether to tell your friend? A one month friendship might feel new to you and he may not believe what you say. Only tell him when your friend asks you why you are being distant. As for helping her cheat, don't even think about it. Whether she will get married or not, just because she thinks about cheating means she is not a decent person. Go to a club tonight, find some chick and get it out of your system.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): She sounds like quite a heartless person to be fair. She would rather cheat on him than tell him honestly how she feels? Not only that but she would add insult to injury by cheating with one of her fiance's friends! Where would you want to see your friendship with this guy heading? Because chances are if you do give into her you will lose your friendship with this guy and also once she's got what she wants from you and caused a heap load of chaos between you and her fiance for her own amusement, you won't see her for dust either. But why am I telling you this? You're a guy you and I both know you're going to do it anyway.
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