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My friend's boyfriend keeps hurting her over and over, what do I do?

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Question - (9 November 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 November 2009)
A female Canada age 26-29, *eggafritz writes:

Hey!

Alright, so my friend (F) has a boyfriend, his name is A.

A is the worst boyfriend on planet worst boyfriend.

No joke.

He flirts with other girls ALL THE TIME, either online or in person. He even flirted with me a couple times, intul I told him off... Then he started flirting with my best friend C, in that flirting conversation, he told her he was going to make out with her on Monday and it was going to be the BEST DAY OF HIS LIFE. C told me, but she kept it a secret from F, and avoided A with all chances. C was tramatized after that, she was scared F was going to be mad at her. It blew over after awhile, and when F heard about it, she wasn't mad at all....

Then A tried to end it with F, he told her she was too good for him, and he didn't want to be with her, breaking F's precious little heart.. She begged him to stay with her, and told him she loved him , and they stayed together.

Then we figured out that A has been skipping class a lot to go smoke and do drugs with his friends.

Then we figured out that A had been flirting with a girl called E, and that he went on Webcam with her, he took his pants off on Webcam, with her WATCHING, and he was going to remove his boxers, but she begged him not to.

After that, this girl called H was telling F how she was going to steal A from her, she laughed at this, and told H she was stupid. The next day F was crying at school, because A was actually hanging out with H, even after he told F he wasn't going too.

Yesterday, A broke up with F, since its the weekend, the little wuss did it online. F was heartbroken, she was crying of course, and I was cheering her up, I told her not to go back out with him, no matter how much it hurts. She deserves better...

Heres the thing.

I went online tonight, and F is going back out with him. She said it was 'all good' and I was just so sick of it all, I logged out, I didnt want to hear another bullcrap story.

F loves A so much , she just keeps going back out with him, over and over again.

Which results in her crying everytime A does someting, WHICH IS ALL THE TIME.

I know its none of my buisniess, And I shouldnt even be posting this question

But Im sick and tired of not doing anything about it, and watching A hurting F over and over and over.

WHAT THE H-E-double hockey sticks DO I DO?

Just not bother? and let F realize what shes doing wrong by herself? Like I had to once do?

***Mod Note: Editted out names to be nondescript and masked a couple of words that may be deemed offensive by some.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2009):

Be a very good friend and just be there with the box of tissues. She has to find out for herself what he is like.

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (9 November 2009):

It's only natural to become irritated by a friend that makes dumb mistakes by going out with some loser over-and-over again. I think most of us have been there ourselves or had a friend that was doing what your friend is doing. Hopefully your friend will learn eventually. However, I feel that you've done all that you can do and she's just making the dumb choice of going back out with this guy. Don't turn your back on her or anything, but just be the same friend to her that you've always been and when she comes to you crying about what he did next time just listen to her...it's all you can do. There's no sense in trying to make her see the light of day because she has her head in the clouds and obviously thinks that she can't do any better right now.

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