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writes:Hello.I have a lil problem right now.I have this 'friend' who has recently just started accussing me of copying her. I know this is a pretty pathetic situation, but I need some advice on what I can say to her to make her stop these accussations.I recently got my septum done and she did too, but ever since then, shes been picking out the smallest similarities to us and telling everyone Im just a stupid girl who is copying her. I personally think she is an insecure girl who is possibly jealous...im not sure. Ive tried talking to her calmly but its gone abit too far now and I dont exactly want to have a shout or arguement because its just pointless. She lives near me, but I have blocked her on every online community we share and deleted and blocked her mobile number. But I get her friends harrasing me who I still have added. I want to settle this once and for all and tell her where to go.Advice??xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): you know what? just tell her up front that if she doesnt like it, she can stick it. tell her the whole world does not revolve around her and that if you did upset her then your sorry. ask her to forgive and forget - otherwise i expect she will get over it if your true friends. If not, then dont worry, not everyone thinks the way she does.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 I like the hair color change idea, only maybe not purple? Maybe a new hair cut and new nail varnish?
I think you should tell people if and when they harass you that you feel sorry for her, as her insecurities seem to be getting the better of her. I'm sure being pitied is not the reaction she is hoping for. Just shake your head sadly, and say, 'well, yes, she seems to be a bit insecure and needs to make up rumors so that she feels better about herself. Sad, really. I do hope she feels better about herself soon.' Then change the subject.
Stay consistent with this attitude, don't react or retaliate with anger. Stick to pity and sadly shaking your head. She'll realize that she's starting to look bad if you stick to your guns on this. She'll sound vindictive and you'll sound mature and unconcerned about her attacks on you.
Good luck, let us know how it turns out.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 August 2008):
What colour is your hair? What colour is her hair?
Lets say you are both blonde. Dye yours purple.
Block anyone who is harassing you, and ignore them. She obviously has some kind of issue, either with you, or it could be unrelated.
Go off and do your own thing and they will go away. They are being very childish so they will get bored very easily.
I don't think it's worth going down the route of trying to settle it. I personally think she's so pathetic that it's not worth the bother. She would probably just tell everyone that you came at her eyes blazing and then cried as she is so amazing and you are so jealous of her magnificence.
Good Luck!! xx
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