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writes: my ex and i have been talking on and off..i recently asked if he wanted to talk more often and he said ok and that he had no problem with that and i mentioned about meeting soon and he said ok to that as well.It took him about 10 days to call after that..and then i called the next time..and then i decided to call a few days later with the intention of asking about meeting within 2 weeks or so..i figured why not since our conversations were going well. He has ALOT of pride and kind of stubborn so i think it would be on me to ask. He seemed closed off this year as well; i think he didn't want to go through a bad break up again but now seems a little different. Maybe time was just needed.So i called early in the evening last thursday. He had to call back because he was driving. He called back about an hour or more later which is fine and we spoke. The convo seemed to be going really well. Dvd's were mentioned and he said i could borrow them. I am in my 20's and never got to learn to drive a car yet but have my permit---he was joking how he would teach me but would charge..and then even joked how the apartment could use a cleaning. And i mentioned it is getting cold out and he said i could wear this funny hat of his..and i knew the one he was referring to so i just said ok i will wear it.I was going to ask when getting off the phone but then suddenly he said he has a call coming through and would call back..no call back..and it has been a week.I don't think it was an emergency with that call. A friend of mine said i shouldn't be so mad because the conversation went well and maybe it just got late and now he figures he will follow the same pattern and same amount of days waiting to call.But i can't help but feel anxious if it was a girl, is he disappearing on me, is he going to blow me off...i want to call to find out what is going on and to finally just ask my question about meeting within 2 weeks...Any thoughts? What do i do? hopefully not all negative thoughts. I really still love him.thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 If you still love him then you need to step away from him, because this will just be a disaster, as he probably feels that you are both getting on good as friends now but mentally you are in a complete different place, you need to step back and give your self time to get over this man. I no its not easy but it has to be done, or you will just keep going on getting hurt, he hasnt rang you back and to be honest it doesnt sounds like he is that bothered to either, if you really think there is a chance of the both of you getting back together then you need to be honest with him and tell him that you still love him and want him back, but if he doesnt want to get back with you then you need to step back from this friendship and stay awway from him for a while as its the best way to deal with a broken heart.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Well maybe hes looking for you to push a bit more on your side you know..like wait a couple of days and then phone again to hear whats up and if you can get coffie or something.
Just show him that you are truly interested in getting along or in a relationship again BUT dont rush it Seriously and also dont be to much to handle like phoning 50 times a day etc.
Anyway hope this helps!
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