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*ossacelt
writes:Hey people, This is going to be the last time i post something on this because i think my head is going? My ex totally messed me about, lied to me, messed me totally about. one week she wanted me, the next didnt then when it all came to a end she told me she hated me, i was a weirdo and then the next week she comes back again. She told me things like she was pregnant(about 3 times), she hadnt a boob job (clearly had) and loads of other fibs, lies. I was always good to her, god i was! She contacted me last week looking to see me then when i texted her a couple of days later she dosent reply. This girl is stunning and i mean drop dead gorgeous. and yeah when we were together she made me happy (most of the time).I just want to get her out of my head, my heart, before i run ashore. Im sorry but maybe i should go see a doctor?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): Hi
Calm down you can be your own doctor. You are LETTING her do your head in...relax! no matter how drop dead gorgous she is you need to take her off the pedestal in your mind...i don't mean think bad of HER, JUST THINK BETTER OF YOU. Step back not game playing this just adds to frustration..step back and distance yourself. Erase her number so it will be harder for you to text on the spur of the moment and make a concious effort to be in different places clubs etc, change your patterns change your mind and change the belief that someone has such power over you, because they do not UNLESS YOU LET THEM. Be calm and strong but stay focused in a different direction away from her at least for now.
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reader, xxmissxx +, writes (3 August 2010):
 hi, iv noticed youve posted alot about your ex on here, and im sympathetic towards you. i would like to help, if you could inbox me and then il see what i can do.
I think this ex of yours is making you depressed by the sounds of it, and your not doing well to cope with this loss of your ex.
Iv dealt with depression many times, resulting from break ups.
Some times its harder than it seems to get over, but in reality, accepting the loss and cutting all ties may be the only thing that will get you back on track.
While shes still around, your still down, so maybe its time to start the healing process of moving on which i can help with.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 ...And the doctor will say what exactly to fix your hold on her? That's right, YOUR hold on her. You love what you see on the outside... Your words "This girl is stunning and i mean drop dead gorgeous." Now, is she stunning and drop dead gorgeous in her heart too?
You are holding on to her because of how she makes you feel when you see her, not how she truly makes your heart feels.
No doctor in the world has a magic pill for you take, that will make you give her up. a shrink will ask you why you are holding to her, and in the end...it still comes down to you doing the work and saying "I am done with you."
No one can make you do it but you.
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