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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My ex claims he stills loves me, even though he's the one that broke it up, flirted and dated other girls just a few days afterwards, and encouraged me to date his friend who liked me. I don't know what to do. It seems like he's asking me to fall for him over again when he doesn't want to take the chance of asking me out again. I don't know what to do, because now that I am dating his friend, he's really mad and claiming his love. When I was single, he'd reject my come-ons (because I did want to get back with him), and tell me he'd already made his decision. Now that I'm dating someone he's angry with me, calling me a hypocrite and a liar. He messages me saying things like, "You always like him didn't you?" and "I heard you guys still f!@#." and "Someone told me that you were checking him out while we were together." I've already told him clearly that I wanted him to move on. He even asked me to tell him to, but then came all the messages, and now I'm confused. First he broke up with me, quickly dated other girls (four days later, while during those four days flirting and texting them too), rejected me when I wanted to get back together, and finally he encouraged me to go out with his friend. What is going on in his head right now? He's also been really angry at me lately, because I did "it" with his friend. When I try to explain that he's the one who asked for all of it, he still goes on. I don't understand. Did I do something wrong? How can I fix this? I want him to feel better, and quit feeling so down. I don't know what's wrong with him, and I don't understand his actions at all. Can someone help me please? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo the first reader, I'm so happy that someone thinks I've tried hard enough. Also, I would say that I'm a bit closer to being happy again. Every time he says he regrets his decisions, I just think of how much he hurt me. He'll never wiggle his way into my life again.
To the second reader, (I'm so sorry; none of you put your names down :( ) thank you so much for supporting me. I understand that he sounds cruel, but he had his moments. I also understand that I sound like a domestic victim in denial right now...Anyways, I'll take your advice. :P
Thanks guys! :D I feel a lot better now
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2012): This guy sounds pretty awful. I would ask why are you so bothered about his feelings when he calls you names and is pretty cruel to you?
Concentrate on yourself, not some manipulating guy, who wants you one minute and not the next. His emotions are his own responsibility especially when he has treated you so.
You're young and don't need to be around guys like this.
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