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reader, greatthing  +, writes (31 December 2009):
you're 13 and too young to even think about having sex and if you're uncomfortable with it just tell him that your not ready to go that far and you're uncomfortable with it. I'm sure he'll understand and if he doesn't then you should break up with him and find another BF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Think about your generation. You and all your peers are going to grow up and give younger kids something to look up to. Do you really want to teach them that it's okay if you lose your virginity at 13? That's wrong. If you think about your mother or grandmother, they never would have even thought about sex until they were married. We should follow them. If our generation loses their virginity and acts like they're already adults then just imagine how they're going to act when they really are adults. Take it from me and everyone else who has answered your question... don't do it. You are too young. Why don't you have fun being a kid. It's not going to last long. Stay away from boys too. They're not good. Just cause drama and stress in your life. Keep boundaries. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): im thirteen too!
if you already know that he is not a vrgin you should think about what experience that he has and know that u need to do what u want to do, but what seems right to u.
doin't let him persuade you to have sex, tell him that your not ready, and think about this when your ready is when deep in your heart you love this person and you would do anything for that personand you would do it because you want to not that you have to k?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): I know it's hard not to do for your BF what other girls have done with him and what he wants to do, but you need to think about YOU in this.
Having sex will cause stronger feelings about the relationship with you than it will for him. It's just a natural difference between males & females.
And please realize that you sleeping with more men in your life is something that your future partners will feel hurt about. It's natural for guys to feel that way even if you don't. Every guy wants to be the first into a girls' pants but none of them want to be the last.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): hey im 15 and you way to young for it but if u want so advice is it hurts but remember pple find out and that would make you a whore but it up to you always remember that it up to just be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): hey im 15 and you way to young for it but if u want so advice is it hurts but rember pple find out and that would make you a whore but it up to you always remember that it up to just be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): The same thing with me except we are in middle school and both of us are 12. He hasnt asked me to have sex with him but he told me he isnt a virgin and i am. I dont know what to do. I was looking for answers when i found this site. I really love him. We are in love with each other and i dont know what to do. Please help!
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reader, jazninch  +, writes (22 February 2008):
 im 13 too u dont have to do anything he tels u to do my boyfriend is 16 and is exactally the same im still virgin and i dont realy want sex just tell him ur only 13 and ur not ready u will no wen ur ready u will feel it insidewen u do feel this sighn think about the consiqueses(sory i cant spell) u dont want to get pregnant 2 early my sister was 14 wen she first got pregnant she went to get a abotion and couldnt go through with it so she got stuck with a baby and called him after her boyfriend his dad (that left her wen he found out she was pregnant)she is know 19 and got a son at the age of 5please think about it babe please please
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): oh, boys! You should ignore him as much as possible, that's what I do!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): I agree with these answers about waiting but you need to consider one more thing. This kind of Sex (premarital) has nothing to do with love. Your boyfriend doesn't even seem to love you at all either. The fact that he isn't a virgin and now wants to have sex with you means that he only wants sex, not a relationship, not you, just your sex.
I completely disagree with the female who said that you should wait to wait until you are 16 as this is still wrong. (to that female: just because you and your boyfriend both think you are doing something right doesn't mean you actually are) Wait until you are married. I know this seems like a long time to wait, but you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you don't wait until then. You seem like an innocent enough kid, don't make the mistake so many make but don't admit to and don't have sex. I'm am a 16 year old boy, I am a virgin, and I am still waiting. You should too
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reader, sammy296 +, writes (8 December 2007):
 1. you arew too young and therefore not mentally ready - i dont no about physically - plus it is illegal.
2. you have known this boy for 3wks. its way too early to even think about having sex weather old enough or not.
tell him no, and if he still pursits, dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): Hi i lost my virginity at the age of 15. although i feel it was with the right guy as im still with him 2 years later, i regret doing it at such a young age. it made me feel so slutty and dirty and thats really not a good feeling. if anyone found out about you and your bf he would get dun for rape even if u consent to sex as your underage. seriously wait until ur at least 16 and ur with a guy who appriciates a girls virginity and who you love and trust. never ever have sex to please a guy even if they threaten to dump you, theyre just not worth it. I hope this helps
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (6 December 2007):
 You are not ready. Not only are you too young, but the relationship with this young man is still in its infancy. Do NOT let this guy pressure you into sex. If he breaks up with you because you wont have sex you will have learned that he is just a player who didnt care about you and only wanted one thing out of you. It may hurt at the time, but you will not regret it in the long run. Those who wait look back on things and never regret it, but those who jump into sex too young most often do. Hang onto that virginity! You only get to give it away once. Make sure it is with the right young man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): 13 is still very young - and as you feel so unsure about it I think that you can not be ready yet...
Personally I don't think you should do it. Don't let him pressurise you into doing something you don't want to do - if he truely loves you then he shouldn't mind that you are not ready.
Be proud of being a virgin. Not everyone your age can say that they are.
Enjoy being a kid! x x x
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reader, seph  +, writes (6 December 2007):
After only 3 weeks that is ridiculous! The guy is obviously trying to pressure you in to something you are not ready for. You are too young. When the time is right you will know. Wait a couple of years until you meet someone who you really like. Trust me if you have sex before you're ready it could fuck you up emotionally.
Dump him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2007): hia
i really do not think that you should feel pressured !
If u seriosly dont want to have sex and he pressures you anymore he really is not worth it !
Talk to your one of your family members if you can because they will be hopefully be there for you , if not then talk to a close friend but only one that you feel close to and one that will not tell anybody else.
I hope that you work it out x
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reader, hello1 +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Dump this guy, if he's already sex at 13 then he's a bad apple.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 Hi
You shouldnt do what you dont want to and any guy that doesnt understand that is not worthed. I think that if he is pushing you to do something then you should leave him and find someone that willing to do things you wanna do. You are far too young to be having sex and you dont want to. It doesnt mean that you have to because he is your bf. Never do anything you are not ready or comfortable to do. Dump your bf if he isnt willing to wait for you. How old is your bf?
Regards
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reader, alieP91  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 You never know if your ready, personally from my views on many people in this situtation is that you really need to sit down and talk to him and figure out if it's whats you both want or need, do you think your relationship is ready for this BIG step and if it's what YOU think is right. No one but you can make this right or wrong. You have the choice of doing this but i bet if he cares about you and you say your not ready he'll understand. And if i'm wrong and he doesn't understand then you really are worth a lot more than him.
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