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*ennifer2k8
writes:My Boyfriend Has Stopped Caring.I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months we were happy to start with, got engaged and everythin, now everythings changed. he wants more time alone and when i decide to go out on the town with my mATEs he hates it and says that's the reason why he's bein like he is. I'm so jealous of him when i was never like it before cos he made me feel insecure cos he was in contact with his ex gf and i found out he was textin sum girl behind my back. He doesn't even answer my texts anymore and when he does they are horrible i cant help but text him and tell him how i feel all the time but i feel im pushin him more and more away shall i stop contactin him altogether?
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reader, Jennifer2k8 +, writes (28 April 2008):
Jennifer2k8 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Thanks For Your Answer. Now hes Turned round and said that we havent broken up and that he wants to take things slow. Hes Textin me sayin he still loves me but how am i suppose to beleive him??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Sorry to hear about your pain, relationship breakups can be the most painful experiences we go through, especially if they are our first serious ones. It sounds though from what you say that this relationship has run it's course, maybe if you are honest with yourself you can see this too?
What you are going through and feeling is entirely normal, things like going through your mind in circles again and again with it hurting each and every time. All this is a process that you have to go through to come to terms with what is a loss to you. You will get through this, the pain will fade, and one day you'll just feel like you are over it. You will be able to love again yourself, but with a little more experience about relationships and love.
Make yourself stop texting him, commit to yourself that you are going to go at least one week with no contact and then see how you feel after that. Get yourself talking to any friends you might have neglected over the last 10 months, find one who wants to take your mind off it all and make you laugh again. Or concentrate on your family, or anything at all that can make you think of something other than him.
You can get past this, you just need to give yourself the opportunity by making sure you stop contacting him and mentally tell yourself you are ready to do it. Who knows where things will go, maybe in the future you both may be able to be friends with each other, but right now, it's all too soon - you both need proper time apart from one another. You can do this!
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reader, Jennifer2k8 +, writes (27 April 2008):
Jennifer2k8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Am So Upset Though knowin that we might not be together anymore i feel like my hearts been ripped out. I couldnt bear to see him with sum1 else cos he reckons i changed him from the way he used to be which was bein unfaithful etc
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 This means that you have stopped caring for yourself if you continue chasing for affection someone that has none. Start caring for yourself and being kind to you, including buying yourself inexpensive presents, cooking yourself good food and watching the movies that you like. You will be much more attractive to D**Kheads like this or many great men that will date you in the future.
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reader, deviant81  +, writes (27 April 2008):
yes. my girlfriend started acting the same way because she found a few texts from my female friends refering to me as honey and baby, and some from me going out to them calling them babe. what she didnt realise is that i wasnt doing anything with them, we just call each other that...it was harmless talk. anyways she started texting me every few hours just askin how i was n telling me how much she loved me and i stopped replying because i felt like i was being checked up on all the time and needed time to myself. i stopped talkin to her for a week and ignored her because she really was pushing me away. the next time i saw her she was really upset and worried she was losing me and started crying. we talked and since then i dont get the random texts saying meaningless things like i love you and things or the calls about nothing because she realised they were unnecessary and that i needed time alone.so think about what you are doing..if u are doing it because u want him to text u every now and again dont expect him to pick up on it just tell him u want him to text u every now and again. if he goes out with his mates go out with ur girls at the same time..this way u both get time away from each other and there is nothing for either of u 2 complain about because u r both doing the same thinghope this helps
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