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writes:I'm 18 and with my first boyfriend. I had never done anything when we started going out 4 months ago, never even kissed a guy, but he has had tons of experience. We haven't had sex but we have done a lot of other things (fingering, oral sex...) but I have never been able to have an orgasm and a lot of times it starts out feeling good but then just feels like something is touching me. Is this just because I haven't had sex or is something wrong with me?
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Just because he has had "tons of experience" doesn't mean he is any good at it!
You probably know exactly what sort of touching does it for you - and if it works perfectly when you do it to yourself then most certainly there's nothing wrong with you. And if you aren't sure - if you are one of those rare people who doesn't ever do it yourself, then give it a try and work out exactly what and where works best for you. You need to show him - to teach him. So many people are shy of doing that, and it's nothing to be shy about with a loving partner it really isn't.
"Yes - THERE." "Up a bit" "Keep going!!!"
It's not difficult; it is just a matter of not being embarrassed about it.
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reader, trixi +, writes (27 April 2008):
 there's is nothing wrong with u!
did you know you'r boyfriend before hand or only as a boyfriend?
4 months is not long & you may not be totaly comfortable with him yet.
once you'r completely relaxed then the orgasim will come natualy.
if you'r not feeling nice sensations tell him what to do to make you feel nice.(comunication is the key to a good sex life)
as soon as you stop enjoying the feeling change onto something else.you'll only tense up more if you'r not enjoying you'r self.
dont forget he is you'r first boyfriend & you may be his first girlfriend.he says hes had loads of experiance (but has he realy)
dont stress over this to much it will happen.after all practice makes perfect!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I doubt that there's anything wrong with you honey. It's probably more of a case that you're not getting enough clitoral stimulation, or whenever you do, he doesn't carry on at it. He moves away, and therefore you get pleasure, but you can't reach the point of an orgasm because he moves away too quickly. Give it time, maybe tell him what you prefer, and things will only get better :]
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