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writes:What does it mean when your partner signs up to an online dating serice and is looking for females around our age in the state we live in?We live together and he otherwise is very loving and caring towards me. Known him for 7 years and together for 2 years, we have discussed children and making a life together. I should be concerned right? This does not seem normal to me at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Talk to him and let him know that you are not happy with this. You two have been together all this time and now he is doing this, er i wouldnt be too happy with it. It sounds to me like he is a bit bored and looking for some excitement elsewhere. If he doesnt pack it in then get rid!
take care
xx
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reader, Tigerlily  +, writes (8 October 2007):
Unfortunately it sounds like he's looking for someone new and figures he might as well stay with you until he finds someone else. The chances that he is doing this "for a friend" are ridiculously slim.
I would talk to him and lay it out on the line that you know he is doing this and that if he wants to date other women that's fine but you will have to end your relationship, and you would appreciate if he would move out of your home together effective immediately. Tell him he was very loving and caring and you were very happy with him, but that you want him to be happy too and if he's not happy with you and only you, then you will help him pack.
Here is the SUPER important part -- Stay very calm and unemotional and kind towards him - no attitude, no tears, no getting emotional. If there is any chance to get him back this is the way. When he sees that you have the strength to stand up for yourself, that you are not going to fall to pieces without him and you are willing to end the relationship rather than put up with this sort of nonsense, chances are it will turn his head right around and he will fall all over himself not to lose you. But you ABSOLUTELY have to stay calm, strong and unemotional. If you fall apart you'll lose him.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Hi
It means he's looking for someone new. Beat him to it and dump him. No other choice really. Doesnt sound like hes happy and doesnt seem to bothered about talking about whats bothering him, so i would be outta there if i was you.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (8 October 2007):
 Agree with the others on this, there could be a totally inoccent explanation for this, especially if there has been no indication that he is not happy in your relationship.
Talk to him about it and try and remember to stay calm.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): It's not normal... but there *might* be some reasonable excuse... maybe he was just curious or he was looking for a friend...
Make a fake account... contact him on his real account and ask him if he wants to meet up or if he is in a serious relationship... his answers will tell you what you need to know.
It may be sneaky, but it's probably the only way you will get a truly honest response.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Does he know you know? Does he happen to have a single guy friend who might have been too embarrassed to sign up for an online dating service himself so your partner volunteered to help? I'd talk to him about it right away because this doesn't sound normal to me either.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):
 You need to talk to your man and see whats up. That doesnt sound right at all.
Talk to him and then update.
XxAngelDust89xX
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