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writes:After 4 years together, my boyfriend still hasn't told his family about me. His family is just his sister and mum but still.His mum is coming to visit for Christmas and I think he should tell her before she gets here.His excuse at first was he doesn't tell his family any of his private business. At first, that made sense since he was estranged from them for over 10 years, not by his choice. Now they have a close relationship and he seems to tell them everything else that is going on in his life.What should I say to him about this? I think it is time to tell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLOL I love the idea of saying that, "oh yeah we've been together for 5 years but he's just been lying about it." It would be funny to just say things like that sometimes. :)
I haven't brought it up again yet but I asked him about this maybe 6 months ago and his excuse was still the same one; he doesn't tell his family any of his private life.
When I ask him again about it and if he says that, I will call bs because that is what it is.
When he said his mum was coming to visit, I think I made it very clear about meeting her. I talked about how nervous I was and what I would bring etc. so he knows full well I think I am meeting her.
You know, she calls sometimes while I am over spending the weekend with him and he almost always goes in the other room to talk where I can't hear him. I could just go in there and start talking loud enough for her to hear me and she'd ask who that was.
No he isn't married and never has been. He's not hiding anything away no wife or gf. I have the key to his apartment and can come over anytime and have.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 September 2008):
Well if he is close to them, he must have a specific reason not to tell them about you.
In 4 years they must have asked about his love life once, so he's either lied about you or told them something.
I'd demand to know what his problem is. If they are going to meet you at Christmas then it's going to look really bad on him when you say "we've been together 5 years nearly, he's just been lying to you about it."
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): I think you should ask him outright why he doesn't want you to meet them. He evidently does not think it time to tell them of your existence. Why not? Could it be that he still has a wife somewhere from whom he's separated but not divorced?He does not seem to have much of a commitment to your relationship, by the sound of it.If he refuses to let you meet them, then I'd recommend you tell him "there's the door. Go through it and don't come back." Period.
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