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writes:This is a long story, so thanks for reading. Okay I have been with my BF for about 3 years now. We live together in a trailer with our dog. I'm in college and stuff, so it's cheep and convenient for us. The trailer was bought by my BF's grandma before she died. My BF's mom ended up having to take it after she died. (this was all right before we started dating). Right when my BF and I started dating she gave the trailer to my BF, his brother and his brothers girl friend. After a few months his brother and GF decided to move out to an apartment. So, I moved in with my BF. The title is still in my BF's brothers name and so is the lease even though we have been living there for almost two years now. My BF's mom is an obsessive compulsive person. She changes the style of her house every month. She has moved since my BF and I started dating 5 times now. She hasn't had a job since we started dating. She is very sick, so its understandable, but she is not helpless. Well she would always give us stuff when she got new stuff, which was really nice of her and we always appreciated it. But, sense she has been down on money with not getting unemployment anymore she is always asking us for money. Even though we have no money to give her we do it anyway. She also has a 27 year old roommate and he works, but its only part time. So here goes the real story to what happened. My boyfriends mom is getting kicked out of her apartment. They haven't paid rent and have no electricity. She asked my BF if she could store some of her stuff at our place and since my BF didn't jump for joy at the prospect of having her crap at our house she got all mad. My BF's brother told her she could stay at his house. Now I thought this was such a dumb idea because his brothers GF and his mom hate each other. And they both don't work and his brother is out of town every week for work and home on the weekends. So, needless to say it only lasted 3 days. Well his mom was missing, so his oldest brother (there are three of them) went calling around looking for her. He called his moms roommate and they got in a big fight. For what reason I have no clue. Nobody likes the roommate they all think its weird and gross that they live together. Then yesterday I come home from work and find three envelopes on my coffee table. One with each of their names on it. The one addressed to my BF I decide to open. It starts off by saying that she doesn't owe anyone an apology (We never asked for one) and then into the story of what happened at the brothers house. Well his brothers GF was being a stupid bitch (no surprise there). Then it goes into the convo between the oldest brother and the roommate. She says that he said we all hate her and she is a mental case and we don't care if anything happens to her. And how me and my BF bitch about how she takes money from us all the time. (We do say stuff sometimes, but its because we have no money! Can she really blame us?). Then the letter ends with how all her sons are stupid selfish pollocks (they're all half polish) and don't deserve her love blah blah blah. How all she wanted was to give them everything and they are not allowed to punish her for her mistakes (no one was). Everyone knows she would give them the world if she could, that doesn't mean she can just say whatever she wants. She said some mean and hateful things. Well after that another little surprise falls out of the letter, another hand written letter. It says that me and my BF have 2 weeks to move out of the trailer and that she got the title in her name and that the state and her social worker are going to help her move in. I instantly started to cry. What did I do to her?!? What did my BF do to her? That whole letter had nothing to do with us. Instead of acting like a grown up and talking to us about what the oldest brother was saying she is going to try and kick us out? Anyway we changed the locks on the door and my BF's brother did not sign the title over to her, so god only knows what she did to get the title. I dunno if she can take away the trailer. She has to get approved by the park manager to move in and she has no income. My question is should I talk to her. Should I say anything? What kind of mother pushes her child out onto the street because she is mad? My mom would never do that to me, well because she loves me and isn't a mean hateful bitch. I always loved his mom before this, now she is on my shit list. But, I want to talk to her and be an adult about this. She blocked me on facebook, but I was thinking of sending an e-mail. Maybe call her. Do you think its a waste of time or should I say something? Thanks
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 April 2011):
 Your boyfriend's mother sounds rather mentally ill.
The title is in the brother's name, but he doesn't live there..Who pay the lot rent? You and your boyfriend, or his brother?
If he didn't sign the title over to her, then how did she get the title in her name?? Unless she's lying, how about the brother signed it over to her because he was sick of her living in his house but didn't want her to be homeless. Now if the title is truly in her name, then she can force you guys out. What his brother should have done was sign the title over to your boyfriend.
Unfortunately, you don't have much of a say in this because this isn't your family drama. You're just caught in the middle of it. Really, your boyfriend needs to be the one trying to work something out with his mother. If he can't get through to her then it looks like you and your boyfriend need to go apartment hunting or see if you can shack up with his brother until you can find something.
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reader, Anonymous711  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Okay difficult situation. I think you bf's mum is acting like this because she is angry because of the other family. She feels she has a right to that trailer because it was once hers so she is fighting to get it now that she has no money and needs a place. I dont think she is really angry and directly you two, she must be very stressed. Perhaps you could invite her to stay on your trailer until she sorts things out? It may be hell but at least you will still live there, she may be happy that you are trying to help her. You could send her an email; explaining that you are sorry that things have gone bad, but is it really yours and your bf's fault? Say that you are willing to let her stay in the trailer but she has no right to take it from you. How could she take her sons home away? Dont be horrible even though u must be pretty angry. Just send her an email that makes her think about what she is doing and the damage she is causing for everyone. Explain to her that yes you do get a bit annoyed that she 'borrows' money but you two have hardly any yourself, but at least you are trying to help her out. Ask her what you have done to deserve this when you have been nice. Good luck and i doubt you will get a reply but hopefully it will make her think about her actions.It may not solve things but calm you and her down. Best of luck Anonymous711 :D
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