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writes:Ok, i have a big problem with my bestfriend! Recentley ive started dating this guy that i REALLY like and he really likes me.Well Today at break my boyfriend came to meet me like he usually does, and we were in the middle of a conversation and my best mate just came over and clinged on to him, bare in mind now we were like holding hands.And i just sort of laughed it off, but then she was like will you come with me to find my coat? (To My boyfriend) And he was like ii want to spend time with (My Name). Soo Then she started like leaning on him and stroking his arm and that!I was so shocked! .. 'cause she's like flat out flirting, right in front of me!Now to me this is crossing the line, so what can i do to tell her to back off ?Thanks For Your anwsers.Muuch Love x
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reader, rickie's girl +, writes (16 December 2009):
look tell her how you feel about her doing this she can't she do it cause it anit right and not fair on you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): i think you should just talk to her nicely an just tell her Ur not happy with the things she does to ur man, and especial when u are with him. if she does not back off and get her own boyfriend she is not a true friend and u should just forget about her. the same thing has happend to me but i spoke to my mate she backed off and we are still really good mates love ????? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Find a new best friend. A true best friend wouldn't be doing this.
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (26 June 2008):
Your boyfriend has shown a lot of loyalty to you to flat out refuse another girl's advances and instead spend time with you. Give him a reward and invite your flirty friend into the bedroom for a little 2-on-1...
But seriously, a good friend wouldn't hit on your boyfriend. Be wary of her, and don't be afraid to pull the plug on your friendship if she continues to disrespect you and your boyfriend like that. Also remember that it's a free country, and regardless of whether she's your friend or not, you may have to deal with her hitting on him until either she moves away, or you do.
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Apperantly if she cares so little about your feelings to flirts shamelessly infront of you like that then she obviously is not your best mate.
Secondly be glad that he cares about you and not her and somewhat flattered that no matter how hard she shamlesly tries to flirt he still sais no. Its not that big of a deal as long as he shows no interest in her. and i would let her know that if she chooses him thats fine but your gonna fight for it as well and she better not act like best friends anymore if she's gonna do that
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (25 June 2008):
 First of all, be flattered...he likes you and not her. Don't feel insecure about it because he has shown he can act properly in the face of temptation! It is a good sign about him. As for your best mate, she isn't that...best friends just don't drool over your boyfriend. Be wary of her. She is doing it because she feels insecure - he is taking your attention away from her. If she really wants him to be her boyfriend then she doesn't think much of your friendship. I wouldn't bother having a heart-to-heart with her about your boyfriend - it makes it seem that it bothers you, it shouldn't. It should, instead, help you re-evaluate your friendship with her because she really shouldn't be acting that way with your boyfriend. I suggest that if you must say something you make a bit of a joke of it...like it doesn't matter to you and that you and your boyfriend find her behaviour funny.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You really have to nip this in the bud so to speak and now, Talk with her and tell her face to face how would this make her feel and its not on..Straight talk she is your friend and she should not be acting this way if she cares for you. You are happy and feel very upset at the way she is behaving towards you and if she continues then sweetheart you have to really say lay off, And have a word with your new fella and hopefully he will give her good signs that this kind of affection from her is not wanted. I hope it all works out hunny YOU TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, neverguesswho +, writes (25 June 2008):
Call her out. You could give her the benefit of the doubt and be nice but tell her what she does and how it makes you feel. Ask her to stop. A true friend will reform and wont mess up again if it truely was unintentional
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reader, Relatefull :). +, writes (25 June 2008):
i suggest you tell her straight.
harsh but thats the only way !
if ur stuck on what to say ..
" you no i like ( wtever his name is) so will you please step back abit.
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hope it works out xx
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