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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i got pregnat in may 2010 and while i was pregnat he had cheated on me most of my pregnacy but after my son was born i wanted my family together so i for gave him. i found out the girl he was cheating on me with was pregnat and nobody knew who it was she is a slut she goes around but shes told everybody it was my boyfriend they got a dna test and end up being his im so depressed i just need some advise and the worse part is he wanted a girl and now he has one with her idk what to do i wanna be with him so bad but idk im condfused how would we work out after this i fell like a fool and i dont know if karmas gonna get her idk anything so somebody help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): you should be blaming him, not her. she has nothing to do with you, she owes you nothing. he's the one who's supposed to be faithful to you.the reason you want to blame her not him, is because you want him back so therefore you have to forgive him. But why do you want him back? just cos you want to have the 'normal looking' family of both parents and kids living together in the same house? this is a very foolish reason to want to take him back and thereby require yourself to let him off the hook for cheating on you.The truth is that he cheated on you and got her pregnant, it is his doing, his choice. He wanted to get her pregnant, so he did. this is not a guy you should be investing yourself in. You only want him back because you want to have the 'ideal' picture of a family. wake up, that's not gonna happen with him. If you take him back more likely the picture will look like this: you're supposedly together but he cheats on you again and gets yet another woman pregnant. you need to cut him out of your life (except for the childsupport).
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 September 2011):
 But who had MORE responsibility towards you?
That is right, the Father of your baby.
You are angry at her for seducting your man.
Your man did not have much of a moral charachter to begin with if he allowed himself to be so easily seduced.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 September 2011):
 I don't think it's fair that you are hating on the girl, she wasn't in a relationship with you. She actually means nothing to you. And you mean nothing to her.
You BF on the other hand, NOW that is where the blame should lie. He don't just fall into her lap with his dick hanging out and knocking her up. He CHOSE to have sex with her while you were pregnant with his child. He OBVIOUSLY didn't use common sense or a condom and now, well, he is stuck with being Dad to two children.
So there you have it, your BF will forever (at least for 18 years) pay childsupport to the other chick and your son has a half sibling.
What you have to ask yourself, is this, is your BF worth all the drama?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): Dear he is a complete bastard...u deserve someone better who really loves you n ur son. n always remember "once a cheater always a cheater". All the best!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the girl he cheated on me knew he was dating me and she knew i was pregnat she would talk mess abt being with him so its her falt as well
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 He's a lying, cheating dog.... You are better off without him....
(My apologies to dogs... since they are much more dependable and faithful than this guy was!!!!!)
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (27 September 2011):
Your anger is misplaced. He is the one that cheated on your relationship and had unprotected sex.
Yes, he should get a DNA to be sure, but YOU should also be tested to make sure he did not bring you a souvenier from his cheating with this girl.
Keep in mind, this is a guy that cheated on you while you were pregnant! You should be questioning if you SHOULD be with him.
I understand you wanting to keep things together for the sake of your child, but you SHOULD be showing your anger to HIM.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Very good advice from aunt honesty!
I know you are very upset about your boyfriend getting this other girl pregnant - but its HIM you should be angry with, more so than her.]
Strikes a sour note on you to call her a slut and hoping that "karma" will get her.......
You think long and hard as to whether you can trust your bf now, and to accept the fact that he is obligated to give financial support to BOTH of you to assist in raising these two babies......
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 It sounds like you have forgiving your boyfriend and you are taking all the blame out on this girl. At the end of the day she is not the one that done wrong here. He is. He is the one that was in the relationship and betrayed your trust, not her. She is left now as a single mother which can be hard on anybody. So try and not look at it like she deserved this. For all you know she probably thought that he was single.
This is a huge thing to deal with and you need to think long and hard about it. I understand that you love your boyfriend and that you want to be a family. But you need to really think things over and ask yourself will you be able to cope with everything. He is now connected with this girl and there is nothing that can be done. He is going to have limitless contact with her because they have a child together now. He will be spending time with that child and obviously this means contact with the child's mother. You need to be sure that you can deal with this, because if you cant am afraid the best option would be to end the relationship.
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