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Mixed signals or simply uninterested?

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Question - (27 January 2013) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2013)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I have been flirting with this boy for almost a month. I definitely like him but he's the most confusing guy I've ever met.

First of all, he texts me first 90% of the time, asks me out, texts me at 4 AM to check if I'm all right (I was pretty drunk), walks home with me every single day.

At the same time, he shows no actual signs of interest. He never hugs me, haven't even hold my hand, sometimes he jokingly (although he sounds pretty serious and hurts me from time to time) offends me. I've put some effort into creating situations which suggest physical encounter but nothing happened, he seems either uninterested or simply dumb.

I even tried teasing him my offering him to set a blind date with another girl, hoping that'd provoke him in some weird way but he just said "Okay, make sure it's after 2 PM".

Whenever I try to start a serious conversation about things between us, he becomes a freakin' wall. "Ok", "No", "Yes" is the best I can get.

I simply can't tell if he's shy or just doesn't like me at all. I'm not sure I have the guts to ask him what's going on between us because I'm afraid of rejection. I have some doubts that he might be playing hard to get because of my ex-boyfriend (the two know each other) I broke up with couple of weeks ago. The boy I'm currently going out with has said he feels bad for my ex and even told me to try to fix things between me and him at one point, which is also incredibly confusing.

I just...have no idea whether he likes me. What do you think? And if I decide to confess he's more than a friend to me, how should I do it?

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A male reader, RUOpenMinded United States +, writes (3 February 2013):

If he is putting any time or effort into you, he likes you. Us guys are lazy. He is probably trying to be respectful, and not make any first moves with you as to not upset you.

The best thing to do is TALK TO HIM about it. Communicate. Let him know how you feel. It takes all the guess work out of not knowing and you and he can take the next step, or you can move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2013):

Hi there! I understand why your confuse.

Because that guy is trying his best effort to cover his feelings for you.

You know what i'm saying? i can relate to him. I'm kind a like him. There's this guy i really like. but i also tried to hide my feelings for him.

I'm not sure how deep is his friendship with your ex bf but possibly it has something to do with that. He likes you for sure. dont be confuse i am right. i know 100% guaranteed HE LIKES YOU. The only thing is he doesn't see you yet as his gf. so dont rush. just let the friendship grow. and enjoy every moment with him.

Don't say something stupid. Just show him how you feel, if he text you, text him back. care for him but not too much. you might scare him away. and also try to date other people. Remember, He just likes you but his not sure if he wants you to be his gf. Ok? Good luck

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