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writes:Here I have two problems. I'm in love with a guy. Trouble is, we've never met. We met over the internet. We can talk about anything and everything and see each other on webcam a lot. We aren't going to meet until I'm legally an adult, which is a good thing since I don't want to get him into trouble. People are telling me that this is fake love and only attraction. Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?There's also the problem that I'm fourteen and he's twenty... I don't consider age a problem, but a lot of other people do. Is this wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): Im in the same postition as you
Only he is 20 and i'm 16
i've never met him but we've known each other for over three months now and we talk for hours everynight
we havnt said i love you to each other but he said if i lived near him ( 1750 miles away) he would ask me out
he's a shy guy but exactly the kindve guy ive wanted!
we talk alot on the phone and stuff and literally - we can talk about anything
im gonna meet him when im 18 - just like you are
i know its hard to maintain a long dist relationship but i wont ever find a guy like him again :)
xx
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (4 April 2008):
x-kitycatlok-x is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your feedback. I've taken what you said into mind, and it has sunk in. Thank you again.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, Addi  +, writes (2 April 2008):
Love over the internet is possible. The only flaw is that it doesn't always work out. And not having the other person there physically can be hard.The age difference in your relationship may make things harder. In the sense that four years is a long time to wait until seeing him. Has time goes by your feelings for him are going to grow and its going to be harder not having him there by you physically. To do simple things like hug, cuddle, etc. Things such as touching aren't possible when your relationship exits in a virtual world.
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reader, Rolly +, writes (1 April 2008):
Yes, love over the Internet IS possible. It's good that you have seen each other on webcam and it's even better that you're waiting til you're 18. Should you still be together, you will know each other well and meeting up for the first time should be easier.It's not wrong at all- I think you are being very sensible about this, which is wise.Good luck! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): You can fall in love with anybody at, just about, anytime. If it's a long distance relationship that's a different problem altogether and age differences only seem big when your young. Say a 12yr old n a 6yr old is unacceptable but, a 44 yr old and a 38yr old. Not to bad then is it?!
I wouldn't worry about the age differences or what people say in general. Your legally an adult in 4yrz which is a long time.
I think you'll have to reconsider on some of your choices.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 You can fall in love in the internet even if you have not met the person in real life.
It is just the reverse in real life.
You appear to be sensible and matured for your age.
As long as you know the dangers and take precautions,
you will be OK.
If you are not sure, the best person to consult is your mom.
Others can think whatever they like.
It does not mean that they are right.
You don't have to accept everything as the Gospel truth.
Be critical of what you hear or read.
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reader, Sk8er Boi's Luver +, writes (1 April 2008):
I dont belive in love over the computer but if u do then that is ok. I have a boyfriend that is 10 and i am 12 but for u to be 14 and him 20 that is just not right i am sorry but it is the truth and u have to face it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:~)
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reader, BigSis +, writes (1 April 2008):
 It's wrong while you're 14 and he's 20. If you were 16 (legal age of consent) and he were 22 then it wouldn't be so wrong.
Yes it's possible to fall in love over the internet, some very honestly and successfully.
One example ~ my nephew, he met his fiance that way. They found out lots about each other before they decided to meet. {They were quite a bit older than you, mind}.
Their daughter is now 2 years old and are extremely happy.
You are wise to agree not to meet in person yet, but who knows, if he is genuine and not a fake, then he will wait for you.
Only time will tell, in the meantime, be careful just in case.
BigSis xXx
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