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writes:I am 20 years old, and I have a crush on one of my sister's friends who is only 15, almost 16. I have liked this girl for a long time, but not until recently did I start having strong feelings for her.Now, I have never dated before, and I don't know about all this stuff. Could I ask her on a date, eventhough there is 4 1/2 years between the two of us? We are both religious, and would never have sex unless we were married (not saying we plan to), but could we date?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): It'll only bring Heartache for you. She will get older and realize she wants to date around. It hapens, it did to me and another guy i knew. Stick to your age they know what they want and are more stable minded when it comes to relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to everyone who has given their opinion, they are all much appreciated.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 I don't see why you shouldn't date. Look at it this way: four years may seem a huge age-gap when you are in your teens, but by the time you're 40 it's nothing at all!!! Obviously, if she's only 15 at the moment then you need to be rather more careful than you might be with someone of your own age - and I'm not just talking about not having sex.
Think back to your own feelings and emotions when you were 15 if you can - most people mature a lot between mid-teens and early twenties, and you need to consider that her attitude towards a relationship of any sort may be very different from yours. Similarly, her experience of relationships is almost certainly much more limited than yours. You need to consider that and make sure you're not trying to move too fast for her.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): It sounds ok to me. A 16 year old girl would be more mature than a 16 year old boy anyway! I know a few people who have done this and I dont think its wrong at all.
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