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anonymous
writes:So last week my girlfriend who I was with for about 6 month ended our relationship. Yes it was only 6 month but I truly was deeply in love with her.I had plans of us getting married having kids, the works. She decided to end it because she felt that she did love me but she wasn’t in love with me. Safe to say I was in bits and I am finding this extremely difficult to accept.I really had no idea she was feeling this way and I believe love has different stages and we could have got though this. My worlds in bits and I am depressed, I keep waking up in the middle of the night sweating and I just can’t focus at all. I’ve tried going out, going the gym and everything is so hard. My girlfriend had everything I look for in a girl and I genuinely feel I won’t find another like her. She was my soul mate. I told her my feelings and she said hers won’t change but she will think about because she has not had chance to miss me. I just need advice on this awful situation I genially am in a bad place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2014): Hey buddy, I know what you are going through, its going to take along time for you to get over her, you are going to meet a lot of women, but they will not make you feel the same as she made you feel,but one day with out even knowing it , you will meet another women who will make the pain fade a way, it will just take a long time, but whats bad is , she isn't going through any of this pain over you, but remember some day a guy, will do the same to her, as she did to you, its just you wont see it happen, an you will see her years from now, an you will wonder why you put your self through all of that pain, for her, but I know it feels like real physical pain in your heart, right now. You will smile again, one day, am still waiting for that day too.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (8 March 2014):
TRUST ME, you'll find another girl.
Your soul mate will be in love with you and will not break your heart. I've been where you are three times in my life but each time I met someone even better until I met the best of all, my current wife.
There are 3,500,000,000 women in the world. Your short term girlfriend was not the one. Accept that and find your true soul mate in the other 3,499,999,999.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 March 2014):
 She wasn't your "soul-mate" and SHE did the right thing, for HER and for YOU.
6 months ISN'T that long. But if you are with someone you don't feel LOVE for, then it can feel LONG and WRONG.
We can be with someone we really CARE for, but after a while it might dawn on you that what you feel isn't really love, it's more of a "well, he is a great guy and maybe I should settle for him". You don't want a girl to SETTLE for you do you? Knowing that YOU are NOT the ONE for her?
Cut the contact, don't beg. Let her have some time and space (and GIVE that to yourself as well) No "stalking" her on Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, Twitter or ANYWHERE online or in person).
Go out with friends, spend time with family and take time to ACCEPT she isn't The One for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2014): If she was your soul mate, she wouldn't have left you. Feeling like you won't find anyone else you'll fall in love with is a very common feeling but everyone always does find someone else and you will too. You just need to move on to be able to do it. At the moment you are looking at ther with rose tinted glasses on. Trust me, a year from now you won't care if she's begging you back. The best way now to stop the pain is to put a plan of action of moving on into practice. Go out with friends, do a lot of work, start a new hobby, a new interest etc, just distract yourself & whenever you do remind yourself of her just picture a massive stop sign in your head.
Good Luck
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