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writes: I'm an eighteen year girl and have been best friends with a boy since my 2nd year in secondary school! In my 1st year before i got to know him i had a huge crush on him and even got to kiss him. But after that he was so shy that we couldn't even look at each other. We soon got over that and went on to become best friends but my crush on him has never left and he has gotten very attractive over the years and two of my girlfriends have a crush on him but know nothing about mine. Last year he had his first girlfriend and he was very much in love with her but she cheated on him twice and both times he naturally came to me for advice. Recently we've been fighting a lot more than usual and he told me that i never say anything nice to him about his personality which makes him think that he's not my best friend. But the truth is that if i tell him all the good things i think about him it will make my crush on him even stronger and then there's no denying it. The problems all came to a head last night at a friend’s house party and all night he was flirting and messing with me the way he always does except this time he took it further and actually tried to kiss me twice in front of our friends (and my girlfriends who have a crush on him) but i pushed him away. But a few minutes later we were alone in the living room and he grabbed me and just started kissing me. I didn't stop him because it was the most passionate kiss I’ve ever had and no matter how much i deny it i do love him in more then just a best friend way! The real problem is that not only were we both tipsy but he admitted that it was a kiss 'on the re-bound' and that he has a thing for one of my friends. He said sorry a million times and told me that he doesn't think of me that way and that he could never ruin our friendship but it's already ruined. I confessed everything to him and more but i regret it so much that it hurts. How do I get over him or do you think i should act as if nothing happened, that it was a drunken mistake??? Please help, I’m being driven insane.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 This kiss shows there is chemistry between you. This can be taken as a good or bad thing. Trouble is you now cannot take back what has happened. If you have told him how you feel and laid your cards on the table and he still doesn't come thru for you you may just have to write this one off as experience (easy to say when it is not me being driven crazy with longing!). Tell him again exactly how you feel, and how you will not be able to go back to being just friends and then see were it goes from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): Ooh, rebounds... It's a painful thing going through a breakup, especially if they were your first love. It's easy for people to find someone else (rebound) because it seemingly takes away the pain of the break up... if only it were that easy.If you really like this guy, I would suggest being there for him, as a friend, and not letting any thing else develop. As he comes to get over his ex, and is ready to get in to another relationship, you having been a friend to him throughout the experience will mean a lot to him... To tackle what happened, if he doesn't say anything, don't mention any thing either. Just be a good mate and he will know you like him. If he does bring it up, be honest, say you do like him but am happy just being his friend.Hope the advice helpsPeter
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reader, SexKitten69 +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Hi, i know what it feels like when u love someone and it tends not to be shown back. If i were u i'd forget what happened and try to spend some more quality time together (Just you two), this would maybe bring you more together and show him that your not embarassed about what you told him. Bide your time with him and flirt uncontrolably, hopefullt he's smart enough to see not only are you a friend but a possible future girlfriend
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