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I think I scared my online guy off. How do I get him to flirt with me again?

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Question - (14 May 2017) 2 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2017)
A female Australia age 18-21, *azima writes:

I have been messaging this guy everyday since February through an app. I asked him for his snapchat so I could message him on there and we have been flirting, teasing each other and joking around a lot.

I decided to directly compliment him and he reciprocate back, however it was very overwhelming because he complimented me everyday and I backed off. He stopped flirting entirely and I tried to flirt with him again but its not the same. Doesn't have the same essence, he I am always initiating the flirting now and he doesn't. If I flirt he will go along with it.

Even though he doesn't flirt or tease anymore, we still joke around and he always messages me everyday. We talk for hours at night until I fall asleep and he takes between 3-6 minutes to respond (he texts me while he studies)

I don't know if I scared him off or made him feel rejected because I was being realistic. We don't live anywhere near each other and since he was giving genuine compliments I didn't want to catch feelings and be left heartbroken. I like him and like talking to him.

I guess I want to know if I scared him off? How can I get him to flirt with me again, to reassure him? I didn't want to over-compliment him because (Ive learnt from the past) I didn't want him to get a big ego.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (16 May 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntSounds to me like he enjoys writing to you, but I don't think their is any future here and I suppose you both know that. It could be a number off reasons why it has died down. But I think you should just go with the flow and accept him as a pen pal. I would try not read to much in to it.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (14 May 2017):

Fatherly Advice agony auntIt really could be something else. Like it's time for finals soon. Or i could be that he is tired of the relationship, it isn't filling his emotional needs. Who knows?

My advice to you is to decide what it is you really want, if you just want someone to flirt with, get used to short term relations. If you want some depth, you have to stop running away the minute he starts opening up to you. Flirts come and go, he is going.

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