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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My bf of 4 years has now been incarcerated for 6 months. Before this, our relationship was rocky because he would lie, cheat, break things when he got angry,call me degrading names, and support our daughter half the time. Through ou relationship, I stuck by him (because sometimes he was a sweetheart) and upon his release he wants me to set up a place for us. Even though I love him and he says he has changed everyone says it will only get worse..In the meantime I've met another man (something I would never have considered) and he treats me like I've also dreamed of being treated. He knows about my bf...and he also has a mate..Our mates don't know of our affair and soon I know I have to make a decision. Either end this with out anyone knowing while letting myself hurt...or continue to feel happy and move on to a diiferent stage in life..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): On one hand...you have an abusive boyfriend who awfully seems like he is in jail because he deserves it. He can be a sweetheart...but have you ever noticed that the words "I've changed" usually lead to:
A: more jail time
B: you stuck in a relationship where you get treated like the floor
C: someone buried 6 feet under the ground
D: (this rarely ever happens) he really has changed)
On the other hand...you have a real sweetheart on you. He has a mate, yes, but that can be fixed, right?
I'm not telling you to do anything because I am having a similar situation, but I hope you make the right choice
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Againa. Ladies and Gentalmen Another women who Loves being treated like crap.if i didn't hate abuse against women so much i'd come over there and smack some sence into you.a simple question.A: do you want mental abuse and the high possibility of actual abuse again Your Daughter.B : Do you want to be in a health NON-ABUSIVE relationship.do you need me to get out my crayons and draw you a stick figure picture?
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 October 2008):
 This shouldn't take much thought. Ask yourself this, how do you like being treated like crap. do you enjoy getting called names and hit with things breaking? do you want your daughter to be raised in that environment?
remember your daughter will learn from you and the environment she's raised in. you deserve to be happy, but don't put your daughters safety at risk looking for it.
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