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writes:i have been friends with this girl for almost 8 years. we date for a little while years ago and after we broke up we became really close friends. i have helped her through many breaks up and we have work together for about 5 years. she recently broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years and i was there for her to talk to. she just started "talking" with another guy who is completly wrong for her. basically he is just trying to get in her pants. i told her that and then i told her that i cared about her. She is a great girl and i started to develop feeling for her. what should i do to get her to know that i like her without harming our close frinedship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Firstly, now is not the time to become her boyfriend, she is on the rebound from a three year relationship and she needs time to heal....suggest to her that she be completely single for awhile so that she can get back to being who she is as an independent young woman.
Once you cross those boundaries into romance, you run the risk of losing the friendship forever, as you will have forever changed the nature of your friendship. That said it is the best love relationships that start out as friends....if you really have deep feelings for her then give her some time and space, continue to be her friend, and she will grow dependent on you for emotional support.
That is going to help you alot in turning this around to romance.
After awhile, suprise her with a card, or some flowers or some very small gift....you don't want to chase her off, but do something romantic and go in for a kiss and see what happens.....the rest is up to her. We cannot control people or how they see us, so lay your cards on the table when you feel the time is right.
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