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writes:I am 53 my fiance is 38 we used to make love everyday and most days 5 to 6 and as many a 10 times we used to have oral at least 2 times a week and I would love to be oral with her every time her had to have a his to hysterectomy and a back injury 3 years ago I got on the Internet and found a supplement called femistril she got a upset stomach from it so they say cut down on the dose and slowly increase it but she didn't want to I got her woman's viagra but she don't take it so now it has really slowed down to once a week and a couple of times almost 2 weeks she has yelled at me when I have tried to be sexual with most times she won't even let try to turn her on I love her so much but the rejection has really taken a toll on me and now she has not been oral with me for 3 months I have expressed to her how much I miss it cuz our love making awesome like the best ever last weekend I got a honeymoon suit hot tub and fire place the best suit I have ever been in but she never wanted to use the hot tub I have done everything to be romantic what do you think is our problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2014): Have you tried discussing it with her non judgmentally? And again, a hysterectomy is physically and mentally devastating, she may no longer be able to feel like a sexual being. Touch her with no sexual goals for a while, massage her, hold her hand, kiss more. It could help reunite her desires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso all that was over 3 years ago and I still do my fair share of everything like work 100 hours a week shop cook wash dishes close get my son now 7 on bus and off most of the time I love her more then anyone can live someone show it and do many things that surprise her when I know she needs any I get it for for her she would be the first one to tell anyone that she is lucky to have me she us the love of my life it's a love that you have to experience to know what I'm talking about I have researched everything about the long term effects of a hestorectomy and back injury I was told 25 years ago I would never be able to perform my job anymore after a bad car accident couldn't stand strait up for over 6 months until I found a chiropractor that got me back to half normal I still have major back pain if I do anything that could tweak it I know what a back injury but I work 50 hours a week in construction don't tell me I don't know what any of what she has been through and is and plenty more then ether of you that's what ports for well I don't need porn to take care of no self I wake up every morning with the affects of porn will do cuz she turns me on like crazy when I wake up next to her every morning and I'm in that condition every morning I know what my life is like you have no clue I will admit I sounded like I was being selfish to someone that don't live my life I would hope that in the future you ask a little more before you judge
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have done all that and way more bought I nursed her through all of her operation cooked clean and washed cloths mowed grass shoped take our 3 year old to and home from day care breakfast in bed more then a hundred time and still do I and work a business that is very demanding that my income went down to have and none from her for 12 weeks plus go to 2 teenagers activitys the post I but up was something I have been asking for months to happen there is no man that could have or would have done more one romantic weekend is to much wow ok before you judge a man try and be one that has been through more then u could no one could be more loving and caring but I guess i vented in the wrong way and place thanks
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 September 2014):
 Aunty bimbim is right, you are concentrating on your sex life... In timyou'll relize that was all for nothing. Her sex drive is not and never will what you expect it to be. Women fail to be excited about sex. Their hormones don't work like a man's. If I had to guess; I'd guess that one out of ten women actually like sex. good Luck, that's why there's porn on the net.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 September 2014):
 You say you have done everything to be romantic. I say that’s a load of rubbish because everything you claim to have done has been with the expected pay off of sex, right down to buying medication to improve her sex drive over the internet.
Did you also buy your wife's hysterectomy online?
Your ‘question’ is all about you and what you want, there is not one word of concern or love for your fiancé, have you any idea what a hysterectomy involves? Are you even sure she has recovered, do purchased online. Add to that the problems that are often present after a back injury and its no wonder the woman is not feeling like rolling over and opening her legs.
Stop focussing on yourself, recognise your fiancé has needs other than sex at this time, you should be supporting her, stop thinking all it takes to get sex is a hot tub in some swanky hotel, if you want sex the best way to get it is to LOVE your fiancé, help her with the housework, make sure she is not in pain, take care of her health, take her to the doctor, bring her breakfast in bed on the weekends, call her from work at lunch time to make sure she is okay, SHOW her you love HER, the person, and maybe she might start to rekindle her feelings and as sure as night follows day, eventually those feelings will be accompanied by sexual desire.
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