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writes:Ok so I know I'm not the only person with this problem!!. I'm dating this guy Who claims to be really into me. He tells me he misses me all the time, Good morning and good night texted everyday and we talk on the phone for hours! We have been on a few dates.... my dad just past he came to show his respects at his funeral.He is just a all around nice person. I've known of him from high school and we bumped into each other but exchanged numbers and talked via Facebook....Now my problem is Facebook!!!!!!! He has a lot of "friends" and likes a lot of women pictures and leave comment like "looking good" and "cute" un there pictures. He always tells me that I'm the only women he is getting to know and I'm starting to have sting feelings for him. Is this flirting? Should I mention it? Is it harmless?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 I guess he is flirting with these other women, saying 'looking good' and 'cute' to a woman is a compliment so on some level he is wanting to make her feel good and perhaps express his physical attraction for her.
However the problem with facebook is you just dont know the background with these other women - perhaps they have just lost a lot of weight and he is complimenting a friend telling her she is looking good? There could be all sorts of reasons why he is making these comments that you simply cant guess why he is doing it.
So I'd ignore Facebook for now, give it a chance and see how it goes. If he continues to put comments like these on Facebook and if they got worse (i.e. saying 'you look really hot' etc) then I'd mention it, but for the next couple of weeks at least leave it alone and try not to look at Facebook so much!
Facebook can be the devil when it comes to relationships so I'd always say you should take him at face value rather than what you see online, and if he is great away from Facebook I'd hold that in higher regard than whatever he does on there - for now at least!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2013): It sounds like this guy has devoted a lot of time to you. More time than I think the average guy just looking to hook up would devote to a girl. If the examples you provided really are the worst of it, I don't think you have much to worry about, and bringing it up is only going to make you look insecure. That being said, I think you should go with your gut. If he doesn't seem trustworthy, don't pursue him. Considering you just lost your father (my condolences), I'd say there's a good chance you're in a fairly vulnerable place right now, and it just may not be the best time to start a relationship. There's nothing wrong with being friends with this guy for a while.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 February 2013):
 I guess that doesn't seem so bad. Maybe if he was saying "looking sexy", or "hot"... but I think that those aren't things to be too concerned about. At least, that's me.
It's only been a few dates, so if you're enjoying each other then I'd keep with the budding relationship and see how it evolves. Good luck! :)
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